Soap Please

March 12th, 2008
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Monday was the first day of baseball practice and as I was sitting talking story with one of my veteran players, I couldn't help but notice all these kids doing nothing but hanging around and acting like typical kids - running around, teasing, playing, swearing.

Yup, swearing. The kids ranged from 9 - 12 and while everyone of them swore at one point or another, there was this one particular kid that used the F-word in just about every other word in a sentence. He used it just like how we use "da kine" for everything and no one was phased that all this profanity was coming out of this small pa-tut.

Wassap Wit Dat?

My player mentioned that "he does it all the time" and I was floored. Everytime he swore all I could think about was if he did this at home because for a kid his age to have any self control in different environments to manage his tongue just didn't seem possible. Where did he pick up such a nasty habit? The other kids around him swore also but nowhere near this profanity filled ten year old mouth. Wea da damn soap?

We sat around for about 15 minutes and in that time if I got paid $1 for everytime he said the F-word, I would be able to buy a home...in Hawaii Kai! Now where the f--- did he get such a f----n dirty a-- mouth talking all that s--- so every f----n person can hear those nasty a-- words?

I have no f---n clue.

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30 Responses to “Soap Please”

  1. 808bk [Visitor]:

    Gooood Morning...

    These f---n kids now days....they just got no f---n class or respect. Give um another 5 to 7 f---n years and they be f---n egging f---n houses. BTW what f---n park was dis?


  2. hemajang [Visitor]:

    Funny stuff but still not something you want to hear from small children. They only imitating their parents though. I don't swear...well, rarely actually. I never heard my parents swear although my dad probably did with his friends or at work. Little kids will pick up all those words and mimic appropriately. It is up to the parents and shapers to correct their speech. Left alone unsupervised, you get the punk-action going on the streets and parks. Okay Lance, if and wen you get kids, you gotta stop the swearing all the time.


  3. Braddah Lance [Member]:

    808bk: Salt Lake. Growing up there, the "environment" isn't that supportive if you don't have positive guidance. You'd be surprised that one road really defines the neighborhood. On one side you have middle income families that are well off then on the other you have destitute, single parent or both parents working 24/7 or some kind of issue going on. Guess which side I coach? I can still tell you where the "bad parts" of the neighborhood are and you'll be alarmed that the crime rate is one of the highest on Oahu.

    Comment from: hemajang [Visitor]Okay Lance, if and wen you get kids, you gotta stop the swearing all the time.

    S---, ok.


  4. Opso [Visitor]:

    GOLLY GEE WHILLIKERS, what's with these DARN kids nowdays.
    SHOOTS....I can hardly stand it when "adults" talk like that, let alone kids. GOSH!

    Ahh FFF....UDGE! I bet his parents even worse.


  5. JuSaMee [Visitor]:

    was at the store one time and had this small, small kid like 4 or 5 years old and she dropped something and said "oh sh..." her mom turned around and said "who da f--- taught you how to swear!?" go figure!! lol!!

    i had the worst potty mouth growing up...then one day when i was like 14 or 15 i was with my mom and a bunch of kids my age walked past us...swearing...sounding jus like me, basically. i thought...wow! thats what i sound like!! i try not to swear as much as i can control it...with all the words in the dictionary i should be able to find another word to describe how f'n awesome something is, right? lol!


  6. J.P.K. [Visitor]:

    you'd be surprised. my gf teaches 2nd grade (at a school in ewa) ... she said get kids in her class that swear. most don't know what the words mean, but they still say it.

    the other night, i went to play tennis in manoa with my friends ... lights went out at the court around 10 and must've had about 20 kids yelling (wasn't swearing though, as far as i can remember), running, going nuts by themselves. no parents/adults around. unreal.


  7. Coconut Willy [Visitor]:

    Holy s_ _ t,

    That's my stomping grounds. Good thing my kids were inside last night.


  8. Chicken Grease [Visitor]:

    I tend to blame current entertainment venues for this kinda' thing; that and the whole peer thing (at school, at play, whereever). With TV channels running in the hundreds nowadays, kids get more exposure to curse words nowadays than most of us in our 30s did. I mean, what was the worse thing that we got from TV in our youth years? Imitating Kikaida and ending up with a few bruises (and, even then, the show had a disclaimer at the beginning, after a certain point).

    I think there's a double standard regarding swear words. "They've" allowed "G_ddamn" on the airwaves; a word which, as a Catholic, I find much more offensive than "f*ck" (which is, basically, initials) or "s#it."

    I'm a big fan of how folks who over use swear words is probably hiding something about themselves; that, and they might have trouble expressing themselves.

    Maybe all covered under the first amendment, when these kids swear? I dunno . . . if I had to choose what kind of son or daughter I'd end up with, I'd rather have one with a potty mouth than one who'd eventually become strung up on drugs; at least remedying the former's a bit easier, and once they GROW UP, they'll realize the error of their word usage.


  9. Largo [Visitor]:

    Good thing your blog is titled WWD and not WTF.

    hee, hee.


  10. Braddah Lance [Member]:

    Comment from: JuSaMee [Visitor]
    was at the store one time and had this small, small kid like 4 or 5 years old and she dropped something and said "oh sh..." her mom turned around and said "who da f--- taught you how to swear!?" go figure!! lol!!

    Classic.

    Comment from: J.P.K. [Visitor]

    you'd be surprised. my gf teaches 2nd grade (at a school in ewa) ... she said get kids in her class that swear. most don't know what the words mean, but they still say it.

    I not surprised. I'd be surprised if they didn't. I guess I shouldn't mention what I've heard some of my past players talk about...

    Comment from: Coconut Willy [Visitor]
    Holy s_ _ t,

    That's my stomping grounds. Good thing my kids were inside last night.

    Wassap! Glad to hear/read that another soul made it out of the "hood" unscathed.

    Largo: you too funny brah! I'm rollin' - but maybe a WTF segment coming up too...cause we all know get too much of dat going around.


  11. MoOgooGuypAN [Visitor]:

    WTF is goin on around here? How come everyone's f----n swearing for? I must have clicked on the wrong f----n blog. S---! Nah nah. Jus joining into the madness.

    Like others have mentioned, it's a learned language. Unfortunately it's learned at home. I always cringe and look down at those "moke" parents that unleash their tongue in a rage of fury, and you know what, the kids end up being just like them. I think as a coach, you need to nip this in the bud. Not for your sake, but for the kids sake. Your his mentor now and should learn him about professionalism in sports or in general for that matter. Oh, and go straighten out his f----n parents too.


  12. Braddah Lance [Member]:

    MoOgooGuypAN: ha ha ha. you too funny too! And believe me, if that kid was in my program he'd straighten out like an arrow. I'm proud of the fact that the boys that go through my program actually shape up...even if for some, it's just those few months. When former players come to visit I know got through to them. I've lost some too but maybe that's why I continue to coach, to make sure at least I tried.


  13. JuSaMee [Visitor]:

    Comment from: Braddah Lance [Member]

    MoOgooGuypAN: ha ha ha. you too funny too! And believe me, if that kid was in my program he'd straighten out like an arrow. I'm proud of the fact that the boys that go through my program actually shape up...even if for some, it's just those few months. When former players come to visit I know got through to them. I've lost some too but maybe that's why I continue to coach, to make sure at least I tried.

    wow...that was really touching...it nearly brought tears to my eyes...LoL!! jus kiddin' wit ya!! as a coach you're makin' a huge impact! don't get too hard on yourself for the kids that might've strayed away...they may still come around...but its a group effort! parents cannot depend on teachers and coaches, they're the first line and they gotta step up!!


  14. munch [Visitor]:

    oh mylanta! i usually don't swear unless something really rubs me the wrong way and makes the Korean blood start to boil...but even then, get some kids that have worse potty mouth than me! like those kids that hang out in the middle of the street....again, what no parents to teach you that using language like that is bad? aiyah.


  15. J.P.K. [Visitor]:

    forgot to mention above that some of these kids even talk about sex ... but i guess that would be for another WWD moment eh?


  16. Da Tin Man [Visitor]:

    All you people hit it on the nose. You are the product of your environment. Case Close.
    Can it be fixed? You betcha...
    Would they want to fix it. heck no... Ass my kid and i can do anything i like....Hoe sad...


  17. 808bk [Visitor]:

    Lance,
    Congratulations and thank you for taking the time out to coach (especially if you don't have your own kids playing in the league).

    Years ago (before kids), I was coaching other people's kids and found it both challenging and extremely rewarding. Now I'm back coaching again. Only, this time it's my own kids. New set of rewards and very new set of challenges.


  18. Braddah Lance [Member]:

    Comment from: 808bk [Visitor]
    Lance,
    Congratulations and thank you for taking the time out to coach (especially if you don't have your own kids playing in the league).

    Nope - no kids...at least none that I know of. Just kidding Babe!
    I guess it's just one of those things that stuck because truth be told, I was very hesitant about coaching because baseball isn't my strong suit. I was just helping out a friend at first and next thing I know I'm still here after 15 years and a few hundred kids later. The funny thing is, I treat them as they were my own so I guess you could say they are my kids...not biological of course.


  19. snow [Visitor]:

    "Nope - no kids...at least none that I know of...and a few hundred kids later... I guess you could say they are my kids... " Hee hee hee... oh, (taken out of context,) I'd say you're a little confused, but a lot busy! Really, though, kudos to you for taking the time to coach - I'm sure that you can never really know the impact you had on those kids lives, whether they stuck with you or not. You know those conversations... 15 years from now.... "Eh, I shudda listened to da coach... "

    But back to the "Dirty Mouth? Clean It Up!" stuff (if only gum really worked that well... )... I know what you mean about kids who swear like there is no tomorrow! During my very short stint as a teacher in Kalihi, I had a student - this very tiny but ROWDY little girl - who swore like a sailor... or maybe it was her mom!!?! She had to speak to me without swearing - I wouldn't acknowledge her, otherwise - but, boy, I could tell it was difficult for her! She couldn't think of any other words to say! She wasn't pissed off, those words were just part of her every day language. It was sad, because I knew she was just copying her parents (I had told her that those words weren't appropriate and she "Why? This is how my parents talk.")

    Between yesterday's topic and today's, we could just roll them all together into a "Parents: Get With the Program!" blog... it all starts at home, folks.

    On a side note, anyone see those Sarah Silverman and Jimmy Kimmel "videos" - "I'm F****** Matt Damon" and "I'm F****** Ben Affleck"? Super funny, but it does make it a little harder to convince your kid that it's not okay to swear all the time...


  20. 9th Island Girl [Visitor]:

    I think it's the kids they hang with that influence the swearing. When I was growing up, I used to swear at school because everybody else at school was swearing. I would NEVER have sworn at home or my mom would have pinched my mouth.


  21. 808bk [Visitor]:

    Brah, you got bumped down another spot....WWD


  22. franksabunch [Visitor]:

    Maybe if the UH football team swore more they'd get soap in the locker rooms? Ouch!


  23. hemajang [Visitor]:

    Agree w/808bk, getting tired of scrolling way down here to get some local action. I don't understand the politics at HA but you would think the most popular on top and the blog with the least comments at the bottom. Master Tsai rule but bruddah Lance should be close to the top...how you figgah?


  24. Jason [Visitor]:

    I live here in Salt Lake — go Moanalua! — and yeah, you can go from nice suburb-ish neighborhood to scary location just by crossing the street.

    I feel bad for the people who live in my apartment building. There are some really nice people here, but also some people that you really (1) can't trust, or (2) worry about. It's almost like there's good floors and bad floors!


  25. Rusted2much [Visitor]:

    Is the abusive use of such abusive words really a reflection on how lacking in brain use alot of our future is?
    Lancey, we got to stop swearing when the ball hooks into the pocket and slams the pins but that five pin is standing!!! Just kidding...c u


  26. anon [Visitor]:

    while growing up, i noticed that use of swear words increased dramatically during intermediate school. usage went down in high school, and more so in college.

    as an adult, i hardly feel the need to swear anymore. maybe it's a growing up thing - to do something you know you're not supposed to do.

    same goes with underage drinking...when in high school it was cool to talk about drinking beers/hard liquor/etc. after turning 21, nobody cares.


  27. Braddah Lance [Member]:

    Comment from: Jason [Visitor]
    I live here in Salt Lake — go Moanalua! — and yeah, you can go from nice suburb-ish neighborhood to scary location just by crossing the street.

    I feel bad for the people who live in my apartment building. There are some really nice people here, but also some people that you really (1) can't trust, or (2) worry about. It's almost like there's good floors and bad floors!

    "Welcome To The Jungle" (Guns & Roses playing - Everybody sing along...for those who remember/know that song).

    Comment from: Rusted2much [Visitor]
    Lancey, we got to stop swearing when the ball hooks into the pocket and slams the pins but that five pin is standing!!! Just kidding...c u

    WTF? F---n pins! Supposed to be a strike! ; )

    Comment from: anon [Visitor]
    as an adult, i hardly feel the need to swear anymore. maybe it's a growing up thing - to do something you know you're not supposed to do.

    same goes with underage drinking...when in high school it was cool to talk about drinking beers/hard liquor/etc. after turning 21, nobody cares.

    So so true. Maybe it is the "I not supposed to be doing it so I going do it if/when I not going get busted".

    uh, I still talk about drinking...and you're right, nobody cares...they just buy a round. ;p


  28. Chicken Grease [Visitor]:

    Woah, Bruddah Lance . . . how nautilus-like (re: above)!

    Hey, Jason's here! He's good people, doing Relay for Life and all. Bravo!


  29. Braddah Lance [Member]:

    CG: Didn't notice it before I posted. Dang HTML. Forget one little "/" (back slash) and it all goes kaput.

    Corrected. Thanks eh!


  30. 808bk [Visitor]:

    Everytime I hear "Welcome To The Jungle" I think of the old Rock Za days :)