Show Me Da Money

April 29th, 2008
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If you haven't heard by now, now you have - David Beckham is not only a heart throb, he literally breaks hearts.

Ok, so I'm exaggerating again but there are two boys, ages 9 and 10, that are probably no longer friends because of him. Ok, probably not because of him but worse, their parents.

Last Thursday's article about two of our island keiki bickering over Beckham's jersey was just plain ridiculous. It was supposed to be a once in a lifetime event for many people and now it has become a real once in a lifetime learning experience for the involved few.

From what I read, the kids had resolved the issue of who the jersey belonged to after the jersey grabbing melee with some old school jan-ken-po in plain view of witness' too! Then the parents got involved some time after the game and soon brought with them lawsuits and threats.

Wassap Wit Dat?

If you've ever been to a sporting event with big name stars, you know at the end of the game they usually throw stuff in the stands to fans doing anything they can to get their hands on them. My friends and I were fortunate enough to be at the 2007 NBA All-Star festivities (couldn't afford the game but got some great video at their practice session - Shaq break dancing and battling LeBron in a dance off!) in Las Vegas and we heard that the stars actually sign their shoes, jerseys and balls then just throw them up in the stands.

We tried. We failed. We weren't prepared to throw elbows and wrestle to the ground for one side of size 15's. One of my friends and I were about 10 feet away from a LeBron shoe but wasn't "aggressive" enough. Two people got their hands on it and started tugging away. Finally one of them lost their grip and that was that.

But here in Hawaii, c'mon, we all do the same thing - adults and keiki alike - whenever there's a toss up for whatever reason...we jan-ken-po! Winner wins, loser says two out of three.

The kids settled it but I think there must have been a deeper reason why. Maybe the parents didn't really like each other. Maybe whoever wanted the jersey thought they could make a pretty penny on eBay. Maybe it's just the parents.

In any case, sad story that made national headlines and now they have to live with this story all their lives. They are young keiki, they are going to believe whatever their parents tell them and I'll bet the house both sides are not giving da aloha right now. The saddest has to be that they are close in age, and assuming the following: play other sports together, live in the same community, attend the same school - they are going to see each other and now what? No talk. No wassap. Just stink eye and talk stink behind each other's back now? How about the possible ever lasting friendship that's now lost?

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btw, No one has mentioned but from the second picture in the article, three keiki had their kung-fu grips on the jersey but I guess the third lost the tug-of-war...and no lost suit was brought from the third keiki right?

SHOUT OUT: Happy Belated Birthday to one of my closest friends that I never see, doesn't return calls, no comes out with us but he was one of groomsmen, Alan Iwata! Eh, he no read dis anyways.

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19 Responses to “Show Me Da Money”

  1. Ynaku:

    That is the bad part of the whole thing. The kids resolved it. We still do that today and us parents congratulate to winners. No sense be poor losers and lose a friend. We have enough problems to deal with without having more hatred in this world.

    The kids are the innocent ones who are learning from so called mature ones who are supposed to set a role model. I hope the parents do some soul-searching. As they say, "Money can't buy me love"


  2. M:

    I think it's so stupid to fight over the jersey,hiring attorneys and ruining friendships. I would just spend the jersey back to Backham.


  3. acuradriver02:

    I agree...I was completely disgusted when I heard that the parents had gotten lawyers involved. Bad enough that the whole state know, and now the whole country knows. Not the best way to showcase the aloha spirit. Just came from Cat's blog, talking about parents needing to be good role models. Definitely not the case with these parents.


  4. Coconut Willy:

    Greed. One of the seven deadly sins. Pure and simple greed. maybe a little stupidity thrown in. Maybe I don't know all the issues but I think the Aloha pilots were greedy too. Now look.

    As for Ron Menor...Pride? Wrath? Sloth? Greed? Dumbass!


  5. book2:

    Just to even things otu, they should burn the Jersey... Pilau anyway with the guy's sweat... when the patents got involved, it was greed talking.. they not thankful for what they have like, healthy kids, clothes on their backs,roof over their heads.. make "A"...GAL...!!


  6. b-relaxed:

    To me...it's a sad statement about how the parents are deciding to raise their kids. Seriously, is this the kind of impression the parents feel they need to instill on their kids? That it's about getting what you deserve...even at the expense of friendships. They are fighting over a material object. Sometimes it shouldn't be about getting what you want...it's about turning the other cheek. No matter what, parents are parents, and they are the ones making the decisions. That's just my two cents.


  7. JuSaMee:

    like everyone is saying...the kids resolved it and the parents of the kid who lost the jan-ken-po should've been proud of their child at being mature and conceding the lost. aren't we supposed to be teaching our kids those lessons?? poor kid...he's gotta teach his parents. lets hope the kids can continue to be the example to their immature parents and stay friends.

    p.s. sir lance...so lucky you got to go to the NBA all star festivities. i asked the hubby if he wanted to go, especially since it was in vegas, but he said nah...couldn't believe it!! i don't think the hubby would fight for any of that stuff. right now he's pretty proud of the kenyon martin autograph he got a few years ago. kenyon martin and some other guy (i dunno who, but he got his autograph too) were eating at the waikiki outback the same time as my hubby...he got a menu and had them both sign it! that was right before kenyon got drafted too!! see we shouldn't ignore the college guys! we never know where they'll end up!


  8. just an opinion:

    my friend coaches with the bulls, the team of the two boys. he told me the story one night last week before the story broke. according to him, the boys didn't really resolve it, but worked out a deal so they could at least get along. the parents definitely took it to another level. both sides called in lawyer buddies and it's going to court.

    the team is in turmoil over this because people are starting to take sides. i give credit to beckham though. he actually signed another jersey the next night so both boys could have a beckham jersey, but one boy didn't accept it because it wasn't worn by him, only autographed. for an international star to go that far to try bring peace to a crappy situation is unheard of these days. props to him.


  9. 9th Island Girl:

    After all the publicity generated by this issue, you would think the parents would be shamed enough to drop it, shake hands and burn the jersey or donate it to charity.


  10. MoOgooGuypAN:

    You know what's really sad? It's the parents who like act more like kids than the kids themselves. Bussing out lawsuits over one sweaty shirt in Hawaii would be unheard of in the past, but now days just about anything goes. What they should have done was, cut the shirt in half, the front goes to one kid and the back goes to the other. Then they can sell them both on eBay seperately. If not, Beckham should have stepped in and gave the shirt to someone else. Unfortunatley, these kids have learned a valuable lesson from their parents...greed.


  11. Braddah Lance:

    just an opinion:
    my friend coaches with the bulls, the team of the two boys. he told me the story one night last week before the story broke.

    Right on Braddah! Thanks for real in house info! Once I heard that jan-ken-po was involved I was thinking done deal but if in fact it wasn't then yeah, something should have been worked out but not like how it is now. Did they in fact jan-ken-po though?

    the team is in turmoil over this because people are starting to take sides. i give credit to beckham though. he actually signed another jersey the next night so both boys could have a beckham jersey, but one boy didn’t accept it because it wasn’t worn by him, only autographed. for an international star to go that far to try bring peace to a crappy situation is unheard of these days. props to him.

    Geez, isn't that always the case? Gotta take sides and not realizing that it affects the team as a whole and morale overall? And the other boy - or parent - refused an authentic autographed jersey?!? WWD?!
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    JuSaMee:
    p.s. sir lance…so lucky you got to go to the NBA all star festivities. i asked the hubby if he wanted to go, especially since it was in vegas, but he said nah

    Was da Hubby on crack? That was once in a lifetime because Vegas normally doesn't allow professional sport venues (NFL, NBA) to play there. He really missed out. Even though we didn't go to the game, the practice session and the festivities around it was well worth it. Plus, I could have used a Samoan to body block some of the peeps there while I grappled with a smelly shoe. :wink:
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    And yeah, like most eveyrone else has mentioned, cut da shirt in half but right down the middle so one has "Beck" and the other has "ham"...I wonder if they'd generate another lawsuit over who DOESN'T want "ham"?

    And let me add, who da heck are the lo-lo lawyers even taking this case??? No class. Maybe they should watch ABC's Eli Stone and grow a conscience....


  12. GumbysHorse:

    Braddah Lance: "we jan-ken-po! Winner wins, loser says two out of three."

    what you said is sooo classic!!^^^^^^
    after you lose two out of three you say, "best out of five", if you lose that you go "first one to five" if you lose again then its "eh no watch hands!!!"

    we should do away with lawyers and just have all legal preceedings done through jan-ken-po tournaments!


  13. opso:

    ai-goo.....what are we teaching our kids?

    ho da "shame fo da family" now.


  14. munch:

    i was shocked when i read this story too...i thought maybe the kids were arguing and got in a fight at school or something. i wasn't prepared to read that the parents got involved throwing lawsuits too?! geez what is the big deal about a sweaty jersey anyway? practically thinking here...what can you do with a sweaty jersey anyway? i can totally understand that a child would want it because they look up to athletes in that way and being a fan, would want to have an authentic souvenir. of course at their age, they both want the jersey...the both wanted to win the jan-ken-po but they figured it out and made a compromise that they could both be satisfied with. kudos to them.
    but the parents? :-o ok. c'mon now. what interest do the parents have in this sweaty piece of cloth? if you don't wash it, it will start to smell pretty bad i'm assuming...but once you do wash it, is it still that "authentic?" what sets it apart from the other autographed jersey that was offered? they should never NEVER have interfered with their children's decision to problem solve and come to an agreement.
    this is a case of the parents being the immature, illogical ones and the saddest part is that their sons (who probably still want to be friends) are no longer on good terms. hopefully the 2 boys can get through their parents' ignorance.


  15. snow:

    When I read that article, I was thoroughly disgusted with the parents! Sadly, I don't think the boys will get past this overblown issue, even if there is resolution. Nowadays, it's so different - when kids are friends, the parents become friends, and everything becomes so intertwined. I think parents, even with the best intentions, need to let their kids enjoy their friendships without becoming so involved in them. Of course, there are situations where everything works out fine, but when kids are young and sometimes fickle, having parents too involved sometimes makes everything a little bit messier.

    Seeing the picture of those boys fighting over the jersey - I mean, come on! Whoever had their hands on it first should have gotten it - if there was no other more honorable way to resolve it. Regardless of what it was, I would have scolded my son if he acted like that - and maybe made him give up any claim to it for his behavior (to act like that with your best friend? not acceptable!). I simply cannot relate to what the parents are thinking - it is far beyond greed, because at this point, it is downright hurtful and intentional.

    The jerseys should be auctioned off and the proceeds be donated to charity - at least, let the boys learn that something good can come out of this! Having the jerseys around will only serve to remind them of a very unfortunate episode in their young lives.


  16. happy go lurker:

    I read about that incident and my heart sank. It's so sad that these kids (and parents really) would sacrifice their relationship for greed. And it's not only affecting them, the team also........and all of us!

    I really think both the kids and parents should donate it so SOMETHING...ANYTHING good comes out of this. Thank you to 'just an opinon' for sharing more first-hand information on the situation. Unfortunately that makes it even worse for me to think that beckham tried to resolve the situation only to be disrespected. MoOgooGuypAN, I thought the same thing but then I thought they would probably still fight over which side they get! :(


  17. hemajang:

    Late but agree with everyone's comments. I wonder how Phil Neddo, head of the Bulls is handling this? It must be disruptive for his program. I have a feeling they will split the players into separate teams or maybe one will drop out. It can't be good for the team. They are at a point of no return so best to make a split. Bulls have a lot of doctors, lawyers and Indian chiefs in their club so not surprising when the high muckamuck parents got involved.


  18. Braddah Lance:

    GumbysHorse:
    ...then its “eh no watch hands!!!”

    What about when you lose the point you say "eh, no count - you slow hand". :lol: And if I remember correctly didn't we used to have jan-ken-po tv show on air many years back?
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    snow:
    Regardless of what it was, I would have scolded my son if he acted like that - and maybe made him give up any claim to it for his behavior

    Wow you nice yeah? I would have given my son lickin's cause he wen lose and he should have ripped that jersey away!

    Ho, relax - just kidding. :grin:
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    hemajang:
    Late but agree with everyone’s comments.

    Nevah late brah! I not sure about anyone else -I know like 90% of you who read are working - but on break right? - but I read every single comment day or night...or wee hours of the morning. If you put the time to read my dribble, the least I can do is read your comments. And yeah yesterday's one was weak...I'm allowed one of those once in awhile right?

    I wonder how Phil Neddo, head of the Bulls is handling this? It must be disruptive for his program.

    Wow, da Kwonics/Lanceformers posse is sure connected eh? We got da inside scoops from just an opinion and now hemajang know da "head Bull". (couldn't resist dat one).

    Au' right!


  19. kaiyo:

    hahahhaha the best story this year sooo far.man!really!!!!! its a fricken shirt! its a peice of clothing! im lost as to what was the big deal. after its all said done the four parents just became the biggest losers of hawaii....guess they can join dog the bounty hunter and herman fraizer on the disowned list