MLC Asks WWD! *shock*

February 24th, 2009
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Mid-Life Crisis (MLC) blogger Rodney Lee (aka Uncle Rodney) posted a blog on Feb.18 titled, "Just Go Out There And Have Fun" and posed a question to me following a response he had to one of his posters (just so happens dat da poster is a Kwonic too!)    :grin: :

KAN:  I know some people (not me) who thrive on competitiveness-the act of competition and giving their all IS fun.

UR Response
:  You talking about Brudduh Lance? Let's ask him when he's out to win, is he also out to have fun?

BL:  Sorry Uncle Rodney, I was tryin' and tryin' and there's no way I could fit my response without full on posting a blog in your blog because there's A LOT to say - it's simple but not.

UR's blog had asked about having fun in sports and we see eye to eye in general - well, literal too cause I tink we same height.  :lol:   And here's a definition he posted,


Fun
Function: noun
1: what provides amusement or enjoyment ; specifically : playful often boisterous action or speech <full of fun>
2: a mood for finding or making amusement <all in fun>
3 a: amusement , enjoyment <sickness takes all the fun out of life> b: derisive jest : sport , ridicule <a figure of fun>
4: violent or excited activity or argument <let a snake loose in the classroom; then the fun began> 


And yes, I have a lot to say but I'll try to keep it short..... yeah right.  :lol:

I love dis kine philosophical/observation stuff (as you guys who frequently read have noticed by now) and wen Uncle Rodney asked... I couldn't resist. Well on with it......

First, I am very - ok, extremely - competitive but I value "fun" more than anything else.

How can that be? Well let me try explain wat I tink competition is.

Being competitive for me is more about doing the best I can and always striving to do more than I can. It's not about "beating" the other team or running up points on the scoreboard. It's especially more "intense" when I know I can do it whether I've did it before or not. So really - at least for me - it's competition against myself. Then I use that "edge" to try and "win" over the person/team I'm playing against.

For example, I've been playing all kine sports all of my life - and still to this day - and I'll tell ya that when people first meet me on the field or court - regardless of sport - the first impression they get is, "This little guy is playing? I'm going to cream 'em!"

Without getting into details, let's just say that I LOVE da underdog role and it's "fun" when I get to knock 'em on their okole! :twisted: If I'm on the losing end of that battle, it just pushes me more to do better the next time and keep fighting.

Fun, I believe, is the emotional aspect that's displayed in everything we do whether it be sports, work or play. I've had fun losing, winning, at work, at home.... everywhere and anywhere!

Everyone concentrates and works hard. There are serious moments and times when your face looks like you're on the "throne"..... but how can you tell you're actually having fun?

By looking at their faces and their actions.

Look what happens when LeBron or Shaq goes up for a dunk... their face is pure intensity and concentration before and during the dunk..... the fun comes the moment they flush dat ball in! Look at LeBron's grin or Shaq's "dance". Look at da chest bumps, da hard high five's, da bench players jumping up and down, the crowd going wild.... That's when you know EVERYONE's having fun.

Look when Chad Johnson or most anybody scores a touchdown. They all wanna celebrate and "have fun". Have you seen their faces? Have you seen their dances? You can tell.

UR brought up Michelle Wie. Recently, before entering the final round she says she's just going to "go out there and have fun" but later it seemed to be her demise quote of the day. I believe she lacked something and she wasn't having "fun" either. Have you ever seen her giggle on the course or smile even? I mean a whole hearted smile - not da kine she always does: presses her lips tightly together like she's forcing it. We've seen that hundreds of times already.... no fun.

Look at Tadd Fujikawa last year at the Sony Open... you could tell he was having fun by his monstrous grins he flashed BETWEEN shots - not before his shot prep, not during his swing but AFTAH! And guess wat? When he was having fun, da crowd was having fun!

Fun is not necessarily the "celebration" itself - although some athletes could make a mini-series about it -  but it's the exhibition of emotions. That's when you remember if it's fun or not. You could make a fantastic play and when someone compliments you on it, your face lights up and you smile... now DAT was fun!

When you really think about it, fun only happens when you feel like you've been involved. When a teammate does well and you share in the moment (some people are not team players hence the "J" effect) you end up having fun yourself.

If you're ever on the spot as an individual like bowling needing a strike in the last frame to win it or 10 feet away for a birdie putt or on the free throw line needing a basket to win it and if you miss you surly won't be having fun because of just the emotional let down. You could of had a fantastic game and had fun through it all but it takes just that one moment to take all that fun away.

I'll tell you right now, writing a blog is NO FUN! But the interaction from the responses IS. You wouldn't believe how many times I smile when I read a post (dat's why I keep asking you guys to comment. *hint hint*). I have FUN from THAT.

Don't believe me? Ask Uncle Rodney, Queenie or Leslie. When they write, they're not smiling but when I pass by their desk and I see them grinning at the screen.... I KNOW THEY'RE ON THEIR BLOG!  :wink: I shoud paparazzi them da next time I walk by yeah?   :cool: :wink:

The next time you're at your keiki's ball game, watch them throughout the whole game and watch for their moments of "fun". You'll see the ones who don't enjoy the game are the ones who always say the game - or sport - is junk and "no fun". It's cause they're not laughing, smiling and enjoying it... they're NOT having fun. If there are more fun moments than not, you'll always be having fun.

Better yet, check out da peeps at work. You can see who enjoys their work or not. Or better yet a pah-tay - take a look around and see who's having "fun" and who's not.... you'd be surprised to see how many people truly are and how many just "say" they are.

Fun for me isn't so much about da wins and losses, it's about well.... having fun! 

So Have You Evah had "fun"?

You bettah believe at da next Triad pah-tay..... I'll be lookin'! Cause I bettah not be da only one having fun! :grin:

 

 

 

38 Responses to “MLC Asks WWD! *shock*”

  1. 9th Island Girl:

    First!


  2. 9th Island Girl:

    Aw, you mean you don't have fun writing the blog? :)

    I could have predicted that you would say that you're always trying to be better than you played before, rather than trying to murder the other team.

    I am pretty competitive myself, which is weird because I pretty much suck at all athletic stuff, but if we're playing team games, I do like to win! I don't get on teammates who suck worse than I do, though, or begrudge the team who does win.


  3. Tankobu:

    Well said Braddah Lance! I got nothing to add, you said it all and your observations are right on!

    Your blog gives me lots of fun and like this one, gives me lots of food for thought. I'm sure it takes lots of your time too. So, I be lurkin' and try comment as much as I can cuz I supports you all da way! Tanks for all your hard work!!!


  4. KAN:

    Right on, BL! Dat was worth waiting for!

    For me, I can tell I'm having fun when I'm purely in the moment - not worrying about what I'm making for dinner, whose birthday present I have to buy - concentrating on the task at hand. I find myself in this state the most when I'm (1) playing music (and it's going well), (2) working at one of my hobbies (card making, simple-kine jewelry making),(3) in a good conversation, or (4) reading something interesting. Sometimes it's even while I'm working (WWD???).


  5. Ocean Lover:

    BL..........."Life is too short"......I have fun EVERY DAY. No sense NOT HAVING "FUN". ;-)

    OL


  6. roach:

    BL,

    Is the "fun" in anything knowing that you're doing the best you can do ?
    Or is it the opportunity to "shove it" in your opponent's face ? If its the the second then I think you're missing the point of the achievement.
    Using your example of needing a strike in the tenth frame to win the match, to me its the feeling of coming through for my teammates with the strike not the ability to laugh at the other team that is "fun". Personally, I have been in that situation many times and more times than not, I have rolled a strike to win. But my reward is the feeling of supporting my team not putting down the other team. Yes, I've smiled and pumped my fist, but it was for my teammates !
    Whenever I see athletes on TV scoring a basket or TD and then ridiculing the defender, I lose any respect that I may have had for him/her.
    Just my humble opinion.


  7. M:

    Good Morning BL!
    You're always having fun!

    You gotta have fun in whatever you do, life is too short and stressful. There's a time fo work and time fo moa fun.

    Triad pah-tay going be lots of fun. :)


  8. Braddah Lance:

    9th Island Girl:
    First!

    And she does it again!

    Aw, you mean you don't have fun writing the blog?

    Uh.... no. :sad:

    I could have predicted that you would say that you're always trying to be better than you played before, rather than trying to murder the other team.

    :grin:

    I don't get on teammates who suck worse than I do, though, or begrudge the team who does win.

    Exactomondo!
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    Tankobu:
    Your blog gives me lots of fun and like this one, gives me lots of food for thought. I'm sure it takes lots of your time too. So, I be lurkin' and try comment as much as I can cuz I supports you all da way! Tanks for all your hard work!!!

    Mahalos! I'm happy dat you have fun on WWD!... see da :grin: on my face!
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    KAN:
    Right on, BL! Dat was worth waiting for!

    Whew! :grin:

    For me, I can tell I'm having fun when I'm purely in the moment - ....when I'm (1) playing music (and it's going well)

    Exactly! You can always tell wen a musician is having fun and enjoying it cause it reflects in their music!

    Ocean Lover:
    BL..........."Life is too short"......I have fun EVERY DAY. No sense NOT HAVING "FUN".

    You must have a smile tattoo'd on your face! :grin:
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    roach:
    Or is it the opportunity to "shove it" in your opponent's face ? If its the the second then I think you're missing the point of the achievement.

    Easy Braddah. I've nevah said to "shove it" in their face... unless they're asking fo' it and even then, I personally don't rub it in or taunt them. I just let da salt sit in their wounds and let them clean it up.

    And it's NEVAH about da degration of an opponent. I for one hate "excessive" or delebrate celebrations (GA vs Florida football aftah GA scored da first touchdown) or for da fact of gloating OVER an opponent such as a defensive man standing ovah da quaterback talking smack.

    Da strike in da tenth is a scenario and I nevah said to strike and stare down da oddah team, I simply said needing a strike to win... and you said in your reply aftah dat it's da "feeling of coming through for your [my] teammates" dat makes it fun.

    Dat's wat I've been saying all along in da blog. It's da emotional aspect dat you get wen you accomplish (herein lies people's differences if they only measure just da "W") wat you set out to do.
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    M:
    You're always having fun!

    Well I certainly do try!

    You gotta have fun in whatever you do, life is too short and stressful. There's a time fo work and time fo moa fun.

    True Dat!

    Triad pah-tay going be lots of fun.

    hee hee... we'll see who is and who's not... :lol:


  9. jaydee:

    Good perspective, BL.

    I went golfing last Friday with 3 good friends (yeah, i played hooky). Anyway, we were all having "fun"; hey, anytime you can get out to golf with the braddahs it's always fun. It got kind of serious when we got to the 8th hole, however, and there were 6 skins on the board. I chipped up from off the green and had to make my par putt to win the skins. I rolled it right in and did my little fist pump. I didn't trash talk and they were moku-ing a little bit. But after that, it was back to just having a good time. Funny how guys get so competitive when something's on the line, yeah? But it's all in good fun, right? ;)


  10. hemajang:

    How you express fun can be deceiving. Tadd has that natural upbeat personality and really shows his emotion. Michelle Wie is not gregarious by nature but I'm sure is enjoying it when she drives a long ball straight down the fairway or makes a nice chip out of the sand trap. In fact, most professional golfers will not react like a Tadd Fujikawa. Anyway, we not talking about ha-ha fun but your feeling of satisfaction and well-being at the competitive moment. The term "fun" and competition can be misinterpreted. You may have a sour game face on but it doesn't mean you don't love it out there competing.

    I sorta da reserve type and will never jump up and down at doing something good in competition. I probably get more excited if a teammate or if coaching, your player/team does well.


  11. BananaFysh:

    Nice article BL!

    Was worth the wait to read. ;)

    Nice to read your take on "fun" in competition. I guess I'm kinda like you - I like for competition to be fun, first and foremost.

    I dunno if it's because we're about the same height, guys think they can smack talk us. I know I used to get a lot of it, especially when I played pickup hoops. That's when the game stopped being fun, and the intensity level ratcheted up a notch or 500. ;) I wasn't really playing to win, but more so to gain respect - I just wanted to play hard and shut that trash talking fool up.

    Nothing like a short guy blocking a jump shot to shut somebody up in a hurry, yeah? ;) I never trash talked back - unless it was a good friend I was playing against, and then it was all in fun. :D


  12. B:

    wow, interesting subject. "fun" in sports seems to be how its perceived. we have a niece who participates in competitive swimming on a club level. she really thrives and enjoys swimming. she has been applying for "smaller" private high schools as she will be a 9th grader the next school year. as the family has been visiting or talking to other parents about the larger private schools, a comment was made how sports/swimming was so competitive in these larger schools that winning was crucial and because of that making the swim team would be very hard. just swimming for "fun" at these schools was not reality. of course even in a "smaller" setting, she would still have to make the team.
    competition at the high school,college, and pro levels is it fun for those that are able to participate. what about those that gotta "ride the pine". at the "social" level(weekend warrior) is the fun about winning or about just playing.
    sheesh, I tink I wen jus answer one question wit annodda one. kden... all pau.


  13. rayboyjr:

    Fun in sports ... let's see ...

    Against friends or people I know, yes it will be fun and competitive. Win or lose, no matter too much. Except for good natured bragging for the winning side.

    Against other teams or people I don't know. Fun and competitiveness are a difficult mix. To be competitive and trying to win takes more focus and seriousness (hence less "fun"). Winning in this case would be "satisfying" but not necessarily that fun. It might have been grueling and physical and we might be physically and emotionally drained. I could possibly call that fun, but it's still up for debate.

    Does winning and accomplishment = fun. Hmm, I think many times I've had way more fun in losing than winning. :)


  14. King Katonk:

    Braddah Lance,

    Once again, I think we’re cut from the same mold. I also played all sports growing up and had to compete with guys twice my size. I took some licks but I also dished out some as well.

    Now that I’ve gotten older I just laugh at all the guys, and some girls, who take their sports way too seriously. We all know who they are; angry softball guy, Mr. Intense PBA (Prodigious, Belly and Ass) bowler, or wannabe “middle-age” Kobe. Some folks are determined to relive their high school days or perhaps make up for their lost youth. WWD?!

    Don’t get me wrong I enjoy playing hard but I also understand the level of competition has changed, especially as the years pass by. The majority sign up for these activities for enjoyment, camaraderie and hopefully, exercise. It shouldn’t be as serious as when you were a teenager.

    Relax folks…it’s only a game. Just have fun.

    Believe me, nobody is paying money to see you play. Nor does anyone care.


  15. jiggyboo:

    Bruddah Lance dis wun is awesome....fun in sports. When my son played football and i was one of those keeping track of whose going in and whose going out of the game. well you stand on the opposing team. and because my son was a beeeeeggggg fella they would like double tag him and being my son's mom, i used to cuss the coach out....and we'd all laugh....that's what it's all about. Being competitive and yet respectful and humble, aiming to win but losing was alright-it was not the end of the world. After the game we'd all (both teams) enjoy the potluck and talked story...but den only in Hawaii huh......good memories. and you Bruddah Lance, the example you set for the younger generation is just so awesome....keep up the good work. Proud to be a Kwonic. latahs den


  16. Braddah Lance:

    jaydee:
    Anyway, we were all having "fun"...It got kind of serious when we got to the 8th hole, however, and there were 6 skins on the board....I rolled it right in and did my little fist pump. I didn't trash talk and they were moku-ing a little bit. But after that, it was back to just having a good time. Funny how guys get so competitive when something's on the line, yeah? But it's all in good fun, right?

    Excellent mo'olelo! It's a whole lot different wit friends yeah? And amazing wen push comes to shove how everybody changes into their game face. :wink:
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    hemajang:
    How you express fun can be deceiving.

    Very nice examples!

    The term "fun" and competition can be misinterpreted. You may have a sour game face on but it doesn't mean you don't love it out there competing.

    Very very true! Can't judge a book by it's cover... but wouldn't you agree dat sometimes dat it'll affect oddahs? Imagine a teammate - anybody for that matter that you don't know or don't know well - is actually having fun within him/herself.... how can you "share" in the moment? Wouldn't "seeing" dat bring you down a bit knowing that you're "thinking" da oddah person is "not having fun" wen actually they are?

    I probably get more excited if a teammate or if coaching, your player/team does well.

    :grin:
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    BananaFysh:
    Nice article BL!
    Was worth the wait to read.

    Mahalos!

    I never trash talked back - unless it was a good friend I was playing against, and then it was all in fun.

    Yup, playing against friends is waaay different. I'll admit though, I trash talk to friends only but I will tell a person I don't know to just shut da heck up and play if they are really obnoxious.
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    B:
    competition at the high school,college, and pro levels is it fun for those that are able to participate. what about those that gotta "ride the pine".

    I guess dat's wea 'roids come in huh? :lol: Jus' joking! Yeah, we hear it all da time - especially from starters - "I didn't sign to ride the bench." Once you hear dat... unfortunatly it's all business.

    at the "social" level(weekend warrior) is the fun about winning or about just playing.

    But then again there are da ones who "ack" like they all-pro..... ai-goo. :roll:
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    rayboyjr:
    Against friends or people I know, yes it will be fun and competitive. Win or lose, no matter too much. Except for good natured bragging for the winning side.

    Yup yup!

    Against other teams or people I don't know. Fun and competitiveness are a difficult mix. To be competitive and trying to win takes more focus and seriousness (hence less "fun"). Winning in this case would be "satisfying" but not necessarily that fun. It might have been grueling and physical and we might be physically and emotionally drained. I could possibly call that fun, but it's still up for debate.

    Wow! We really see eye to eye! You 5 feet too? :lol:

    Does winning and accomplishment = fun. Hmm, I think many times I've had way more fun in losing than winning.

    Dang! You should have written dis blog entry! :lol:


  17. sassy7:

    You know BL....I so know what you were referring too in regards to the ability to "have fun" in the love of sports or anything. I have been a player and a fan...I also have been the person always rooting for the under dog or the one that tries to keep it positive when our team is nothing but on a loosing streak.. (remember I wen grad-Waialua-we neva have too many winning seasons)...and then I have been team mom for many football and soccer teams....I love the coaches who teach their players the finess of the game, and who tell their players to play clean, and to have fun....to often I have been to the games where the coaches are bad, where they teach their kids to swipe and kick, or hit um below the knees or even take out the knees..... the coaches who "encourage: fun those are the kind of coaches that later on the kids remember, and will come to...the ones that only want to "win" at all cost is the one that looses respect from their team...so yes...Lance....having fun...being competitive is a good thing...just enjoying the game is where it is. "kudo's to those who play to have fun and enjoy the game"....bahumbug to the ones that only care about the win.....


  18. Scott:

    I admire that edginess about you, I found that out REAL quick last year how tough you are ;), that's awesome.

    My little story-last friday I played golf with a 3 star General and his wife, who happened to be the top amateur female golfer (senior, non-professional) in the country. He and I are both long hitters and on #2 the wife, who was really cool, said that the General will try to outdrive me all day long, he hates it when he gets outdriven.

    That was all I needed! On one par 3 he hit a 8 iron to 6 feet. I hit a wedge to 3 feet and made birdie. The next hole he hit his drive about 290. I hit mine 340 (downwind) and made birdie. He grumbled "nice birdie", but I can tell he was frustrated. Next hole, a par 5, I drove the green in 2 and made birdie, and he just missed his birdie putt.

    Well, in the end he shot 75 and I shot 76, but either way it was fun for me to outdrive a General. His wife shot 71 from the back tees and smoked us all!

    Challenging yourself is the best way to compete. The only winner or loser is you.


  19. Braddah Lance:

    King Katonk:
    Once again, I think we’re cut from the same mold....I took some licks but I also dished out some as well.

    :grin: We just got da "old school" snot knocked into us is all. :grin: And yup yup! It was fun dishing it out... as well as taking some!

    Believe me, nobody is paying money to see you play. Nor does anyone care.

    :lol: I care.... especially if you on my team. I no like playing with anybody dat no can have fun! :lol:
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    jiggyboo:
    ...that's what it's all about. Being competitive and yet respectful and humble, aiming to win but losing was alright-it was not the end of the world. After the game we'd all (both teams) enjoy the potluck and talked story...but den only in Hawaii huh......good memories.

    Rogah dat!

    and you Bruddah Lance, the example you set for the younger generation is just so awesome....keep up the good work. Proud to be a Kwonic. latahs den

    Wow! Mahalos! And I try. I admit sometimes I get caught up it but then I gotta smile and it's au'good! And you proud to be a Kwonic? Wow lau lau! I proud dat you proud. :oops:
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    sassy7:
    ...being competitive is a good thing...just enjoying the game is where it is. "kudo's to those who play to have fun and enjoy the game"....bahumbug to the ones that only care about the win.....

    Well said!
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    Scott:
    ...the wife, who was really cool, said that the General will try to outdrive me all day long, he hates it when he gets outdriven. That was all I needed!

    :lol: Nothing like being called out on a golf course! :lol: Funny you mention dat story too cause dat happens to me all da time except wen I play most people already "expect" to out drive me. It's feels hella good wen I outdrive them... consistently too. :grin: But not no 300+ yards! :shock:

    Well, in the end he shot 75 and I shot 76, but either way it was fun for me to outdrive a General. His wife shot 71 from the back tees and smoked us all!

    We are definetly not playing golf together!........ I won't have any fun. :razz:

    Challenging yourself is the best way to compete. The only winner or loser is you.

    Nice. :grin:


  20. NKHEA:

    Yoooo BL tot we waz goin talk bout beea and poke :( :lol:

    Good subject :? me not the competitive type ;) no matta to me if is win or lose :) I jus in dea to have fun :D Like OL, M, and I always say life is to short, enjoy and have fun ;) :P

    NKHEA...only like Pah-Tay


  21. kate:

    Hey, was worth the wait! Good job and appreciate your hard work blogging even when it's no fun for you. Now you can smile.

    Wish more people had your attitude. Maybe I should print this and pass it out to some of the parents on my kids team. Most of us just want to have *fun* and socialize - kids say, "what's for snack?" and the parents say, "whea we going for lunch?" but there's always those parents who just want to win win win. Yeah, winning is important but it's not everything.


  22. kate:

    Since I'm not too competitive (my no care attitude), I'll *let* you win at the board game of your choice.

    For me the only game worth winning is the Las Vegas kine. Losers can go to Lappert's at the Cal to drown their sorrows in ice cream. You can often find me there.


  23. snow:

    ahh... good things do come to those who wait! great response to rodney, BL! kind of knew where you'd be coming from and/but you did a nice job on your post!! :) who said you're not a writer??? certainly, not i!

    i wholeheartedly agree with your perspective. i've been telling my son that he has to play his best, not try to play better than his opponent! there are so many people whose main objective is to beat the the other guy and to make them feel bad. no can, li' dat!! you play your best and give it your all, win or lose, you can hold your head up high! and, to be a good sport, no matter what the outcome, is something everyone (parents and observers included!) should practice.

    but having fun at all times... it should be a requirement! it's true... add me to the list with NKHEA, OL and M... life is too short not to have fun! sometimes athletics is too crazy competitive... i think it's sad when a great athlete cannot handle the pressure (although sometimes part of it may be self-imposed). i'm a half-full kind of person... i have fun at work and play even if i don't really like what i'm doing (or even if i'm golfing a "double" round of golf - ha!)! we're always laughing (hopefully, not hysterically... 'cause then they are supposed to slap me! heh heh!)!

    glad that our responses add some fun to your blog life!! (though, i was a little disheartened to hear that you don't enjoy writing your blog! :( ) i hope you know how much we appreciate your efforts and how much we enjoy your perspective on life! :D much mahalos, BL!


  24. Ynaku:

    Chee Hoo Bruddah Lance. You said it. Like I said on MLC, the fun comes after. When you have a job to do, it's focus time. Celebration comes after among your team mates. Never would I taunt the other team or person. What goes around comes around.

    If it's among friends, then yes, we can have fun from beginning to end.

    You wait until the next triad pahty in 2 weeks. I going be one guy having fun. And I expect the rest of the gang to have fun too or else they going have to buy us da peea and poke. :D :D :lol: :)

    Mahalo Bruddah for your effort and we be hea to have fun and make you and da udda bloggers smile.


  25. uncle jimmy:

    very profoun' comments from snow.. ditto dat sports teaches sportsmanship, goodwill toward an opponent, win or lose.. nicely put snow,,

    when i wuz young, Plan A wuz be pro golfah.. 5 hours a day, 7 days a week, 18 holes every day for t'ree years, built around UH classes, workeen full-time in Waikiki.. no mo' dates during undergrad..

    only got down to a consistent 4.. (too hothead).. do you know what it feels like to hit a 5-iron...wit' a 9-iron.. about halfway down da shaft? i do.. 9-iron wins..

    meanwhile my li'l bro' Da Walrus starts followin' me aroun' when he's 14 an' by da time he's 16, he's scratch playa an' Club Champ.. hooo-eee, can not even win da family tourney, how you goin' pro,, ansa, you not..

    so on to Plan B, but wit' da same drive an determination an everyt'ing works out.. meanwhile li'l bro is still scratch 40 yeahs latah..

    now when i play, i like drink an' relax.. rarely keep score, an' aftah 14th hole, rarely look for shots out of da fairway.. still like hitteen the occasional miracle shot, (da hook dat goes aroun' da tree an' ovah da watah, sure, i'll try 'em)..

    but now, it's mo about da time outside, da friendship, good times wit' good frien's..

    when i like swing dat 9-iron now, i keep da grip light, da swing easy, an' da shots sweet.. an' if i slice 'em OB, no matah, get plenny mo' balls..

    i bet, i lose, i make noise, i have a great time..

    competition? dat's a young man's game.. but it all comes aroun' in da course of a lifetime..

    t'anks eh, BL fo' a great top-ick..


  26. Coconut Willy:

    If I'm playing something that I'm pretty proficient at, then I can be intense. Maybe to the extent that I'm hard on myself if I don't play up to my own expectations. But if I'm playing something I not too good at, den I just try to enjoy the game.


  27. opso:

    BL - ho.......fo reals was worth da wait fo yo "dissertation". :D

    i used to be somewhat "competitive" in my younger days. but while growing into.....ahem......MLC status......i found myself having more FUN just "playing da game".......whateva it may be......by not taking it too serious. afta all.....it's not like i one professional or anything. ;)

    but good fun when you playing with your buds......can trash talk da hell out of each oddah. cause we know it's all in FUN! :lol:


  28. Kelli:

    I'll tell you right now, writing a blog is NO FUN! But the interaction from the responses IS. You wouldn't believe how many times I smile when I read a post (dat's why I keep asking you guys to comment. *hint hint*). I have FUN from THAT.

    Yeah, I'm not smiling when I write my blog posts either, but I definitely smile most of the time when I get comments. It's work when it comes to writing this stuff, but it's worth it when the readers really care about it and share their thoughts.


  29. bB:

    i get competitive no matter who i play in sports. sometimes more than others. but, i have fun at the same time. my definition of fun is simply something that i enjoy doing.

    when i play golf i joke around, but sometimes i get serious and always frustrated. i probably don't look like i having fun at all, but at the end of the day i really did have fun and enjoyed myself.


  30. Braddah Lance:

    NKHEA:
    Yoooo BL tot we waz goin talk bout beea and poke

    I thought we were going to EAT beea and poke? :lol:

    NKHEA...only like Pah-Tay

    Yeah, we know. :mrgreen:
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    kate:
    Hey, was worth the wait! Good job and appreciate your hard work blogging even when it's no fun for you. Now you can smile.

    :grin: x's 2!

    Wish more people had your attitude....but there's always those parents who just want to win win win. Yeah, winning is important but it's not everything.

    You'd be surprised at wat I tell da parents at da parent meeting before da season starts. :shock: Even they are surprised!

    Since I'm not too competitive (my no care attitude), I'll *let* you win at the board game of your choice.

    Dat's no "fun". :lol:

    For me the only game worth winning is the Las Vegas kine. Losers can go to Lappert's at the Cal to drown their sorrows in ice cream. You can often find me there.

    I'm da one usually on da corner with da cup in hand asking fo' donations. :sad:
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    snow:
    i wholeheartedly agree with your perspective. i've been telling my son that he has to play his best, not try to play better than his opponent!

    Yeah, dat's a tough one to try and "explain".

    but having fun at all times... it should be a requirement!

    Rogah dat!

    glad that our responses add some fun to your blog life!! (though, i was a little disheartened to hear that you don't enjoy writing your blog! )

    Don't get me wrong, I totally enjoy the whole concept of it. It's just the writing and rewriting and editing - at least for me - yada yada yada but I really enjoy da comments! Dat's why I keep asking for 'em! :wink: As in life, any feedback is good.... except fo' da kine guys who leave da pilau ones like on our main website! Have you read those? Really makes me sick what some people actually say! :mad:
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    Ynaku:
    Celebration comes after among your team mates. Never would I taunt the other team or person. What goes around comes around.

    Funny you mention dat. At last night's softball game, da team we was playing against had dis one player talking smack all da time... maybe cause we was smoking 'em but we nevah say nothing... just kept playing and having fun watching him get more animated. :grin:

    If it's among friends, then yes, we can have fun from beginning to end.

    Rogah!

    Mahalo Bruddah for your effort and we be hea to have fun and make you and da udda bloggers smile.

    Always!
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    uncle jimmy:
    now when i play, i like drink an' relax.. rarely keep score, an' aftah 14th hole...but now, it's mo about da time outside, da friendship, good times wit' good frien's..

    We still not playin' golf together if you shoot dat good! :lol:
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    Coconut Willy:
    But if I'm playing something I not too good at, den I just try to enjoy the game.

    How come da change in attitude? I try to do everything - whether I know how or not - as if it was da world. I guess it's because I pick up on things pretty quick so I "expect" myself to be decently good. :roll:
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    opso:
    but good fun when you playing with your buds......can trash talk da hell out of each oddah. cause we know it's all in FUN!

    Yeah! Dat's da only time my "oddah" side comes out. :twisted:
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    Kelli:
    Yeah, I'm not smiling when I write my blog posts either, but I definitely smile most of the time when I get comments. It's work when it comes to writing this stuff, but it's worth it when the readers really care about it and share their thoughts.

    :wink: But you're going into journalism.... dis should be second nature to you no?
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    bB:
    when i play golf i joke around, but sometimes i get serious and always frustrated. i probably don't look like i having fun at all, but at the end of the day i really did have fun and enjoyed myself.

    You summed it up right there. Joke around, get serious.... realize you had fun at da end. :grin: Maybe I'll play golf with you. If you get frustrated on da course we can share in da "refreshments" between holes. :lol:


  31. 2B:

    You know me, I like to win, hate to lose, and am relatively hard on myself when I mess up on the field like last night when my throw went 8 feet behind me, or when I hit like a little girl (seems to be everytime I get up to bat now days). I still like to have fun, but want to be "perfect" on the field just like da guy on the "hot" corner.

    No worry about the chirping guy on da oddah team. He's like dat ahead by 10 behind by 10 or in a tight game. It's just that much more funny when they're behind by 10 and he's still lipping off yah?

    Eh BL so when we going out and hit da sticks? I always shoot in the 70's, but only if I play 14 holes and no count da rest of the strokes fo the round.


  32. uncle jimmy:

    BL:

    at leas' you wen upgrade your reference from "going golfing"..

    to "playing golf".. now you on da right page.. welcome to da club, BL..

    get a grip an' let it rip.. or as Sam Snead used to say on da first hole..

    "Balls in the air ladies!"

    you do remember who Slammin' Sammy Snead wuz, right, BL?

    da swing..

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDn_2_kvmBE&feature=related

    da lesson..

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_BJsZcGatEo&feature=related

    aloha, uj


  33. lesliek:

    hi braddah lance:

    re: the part where you say 'when you're writing your blog is no fun'...you sure about that? when u write, you are very intuitive and creative...impresses the heck out of me. i think you get a lot of satisfaction from writing.

    thanks, leslie


  34. anklebiters:

    I'm as competitive as the next person..I hate to lose..but once the game is over I don't dwell on the loss or victory. I don't lose any sleep over it, my heart rate isn't in the danger zone, my blood pressure isn't high enough to mimic Old Faithfull. It's time for a beer and pizza with the victors or the victims. I have FUN is all I have to say, win or lose. Your career isn't at stake, nor your mortgage payment, car payment, food and clothing or alimony payment :-).

    I've watched all of my kids sports activities over the years...they play to win, game faces on, "don't bother me" attitude before the games but regardless of the end results, they also have fun fun fun doing it, win or lose....no tossing of equipment, finger pointing, or cursing after a loss. It's like a switch has been turned off after a game sometimes.


  35. Braddah Lance:

    2B:
    ...and am relatively hard on myself when I mess up on the field like last night when my throw went 8 feet behind me

    Yeah, dat was kind of funny! :lol:

    I still like to have fun, but want to be "perfect" on the field just like da guy on the "hot" corner.

    Great minds think alike. :grin: But I did boot a ball too.... and my cleats were useless in da five inch dust. :roll:

    No worry about the chirping guy on da oddah team. He's like dat ahead by 10 behind by 10 or in a tight game. It's just that much more funny when they're behind by 10 and he's still lipping off yah?

    Yeah but he's REALLY irking! I wouldn't mind it one bit if he was doing it to his teammates or even to our team in general but he was actually saying sh!*tuff to individuals and dat wasn't right.

    Eh BL so when we going out and hit da sticks? I always shoot in the 70's, but only if I play 14 holes and no count da rest of the strokes fo the round.

    Wat?! I already shoot 70's on da front nine! :mad: Anytime Braddah... anytime. I get one oddah friend dat like go to so we at least get three... you know, since we not part of da "oddah hui" eh? :wink: :lol:
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    uncle jimmy:
    at leas' you wen upgrade your reference from "going golfing"..
    to "playing golf".. now you on da right page.. welcome to da club, BL..

    :lol: But my game still da same....... :sad:

    you do remember who Slammin' Sammy Snead wuz, right, BL?

    Das da guy wit da restaurant at Navy/Marine Golf course right? :wink:
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    lesliek:
    re: the part where you say 'when you're writing your blog is no fun'...you sure about that? when u write, you are very intuitive and creative...impresses the heck out of me. i think you get a lot of satisfaction from writing.

    You're just too sweet Les. I bet wen your hubby hugs you he gets a toothache huh? :grin:
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    anklebiters:
    I'm as competitive as the next person..I hate to lose..but once the game is over I don't dwell on the loss or victory.

    Yup.... unless you're an inconsiderate volleyball team running through a baseball practice field. :roll:

    Your career isn't at stake, nor your mortgage payment, car payment, food and clothing or alimony payment :-).

    But sometimes pride is worth more than all of dat combined....... dat's probably my achilles at times - too much pride.


  36. Shauna:

    Hey Lance! All I know is that it won't be fun if you're not there when we get together on the 10th when Ynaku is in town... Let us know if your schedule changes! And no spying on me! You just happen to always pass by when I'm grinning ear to ear. Talk about ODD! :lol:


  37. Ynaku:

    BL, you and da wife gotta show up or you no get your....uh....goodies. I know your wife going come.


  38. bB:

    sure, maybe we can play around.

    maybe next time you on maui or when i get time when i'm on oahu.

    refreshments sounds good. :lol:

    bl 1st annual golf tourney