Respect Your Elders.... Or Just Act Old
With Great Grandma babysitting for a few hours, it gave me a chance to run some errands yesterday: pick up mail, go grocery shopping for dinner and pick up a couple of prescriptions for Da Wife and Baby.
Mail not a problem although the parking lot was a mess (a whole noddah blog on dat) and picking up dinner items at Palama Market was briefly an enlightening moment.
As I was standing in the isle looking for a good bunch of red leaf lettuce, I felt an ever so slight nudge on my duffle bag that I had around my shoulder. I thought I had it blocking part of the narrow isle walkway so I slung it forward and nonchalantly glanced back. A young Polynesian stock boy walked by with an apologetic look and said that five letter word that people hardly hear anymore.... "sorry". I gave da 808 head nod (equivalent of a shaka but no hands, obviously) and all was cool.
Was nice to see some aloha in a youngin'... or maybe I looked like an old man to him already and he was just respecting his elder. Ai-yah... am I an elder? 😯
At Longs it was a different story. If you've picked up or dropped off any prescription there, you know there's an area to stand in line to "ensure privacy" and that line tends to back up at almost any hour of the day. Unfortunately I must have been there during Senior Thursday cause I felt like I could have been any of these peoples grandson.
Ok, ok, so they weren't that old but they had more white hair than me and that's a lot!
The line moved fairly quickly and being next in line with a duffle bag full of mail and groceries, I was looking forward to just picking up the meds and being on my way in a few moments. What immediately caught my eye was "uncle" that popped out of nowhere pacing back and forth. I already knew what he was going to do but I gave him the benefit of the doubt as he didn't make eye contact with anybody standing in line. Other than trying to play dumb as if he was looking down the isles, once there was an opening at the counter, bam, there he was.
Wassup Wit Dat!
He knew very well that there's a line and knew exactly where that line was - how else did he know where to drop off his prescription and even if it was called in, he looked like the type to pick up medication regularly anyways.
The pharmacy tech didn't even bat an eye and started to look for "uncle's" meds. I wanted to say something so bad but bit my tongue and hoping it was just a question he needed to ask. I then turned to the other "uncle" already being helped at the counter wearing a murse. 😆 It was a bad murse at that too and he was arguing about the prescription cost because it was supposed to be the same as usual.
So much for the privacy line huh?
Oops, almost pau now. So before I left the pharmacy:
BL: "Next time no let uncle cut in line eh."
TECH: "Oh. Sorry, I didn't know."
Ok, watevahs.
How do you deal with line cutters? How do you deal with "elders"? How do you deal with rude "elders"? Do you tend to watch what you say or when to say something regardless of the person: Young? Old? Female? Male? Do you use age as an excuse?
Have a grrrreeeeat Feel Good Friday everybodies! Stay safe and a hui hou!
TIP OF DA DAY: Wen standing in line, no just rush in cause da counter/window stay open. Try wait fo' be called cause you nevah know if da person ending their shift or finishing up something that requires more time. We've all seen da dreaded backwards walk of shame wea you go to da counter/window and they say "sorry, closed". Also, if you know you next in line, no look at your phone or look around. You should be looking at da next available counter cause once da bell rings or you hea' "next!", you gotta be on da ball and get there bumbye da people standing in line going get all huhu at you.
September 9th, 2011 at 5:07 am
First!
September 9th, 2011 at 5:08 am
FIRST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh yeah..........the "young uns" no stand a chance.
Now WHAT we talking about again?
Ol..............no idea what the subject is but he stay FIRST!
September 9th, 2011 at 5:09 am
CRAP! Morning M...........
OL...............M wen "cut" in front of me
September 9th, 2011 at 5:10 am
Howzit BL!
I had people cut in line and I tell em, "excuse my but the line is back here" or I'll tell the cashier, "he wen cut in line".
September 9th, 2011 at 5:10 am
Sorry OL, da line in back hea.....
September 9th, 2011 at 6:02 am
BHAHAHAHA! That was a great first five comments!
September 9th, 2011 at 6:17 am
At da Oki Festival, I was in da long line to buy scripts and dis guy wen cut in from of me so I tell him, "eh the line starts way back ova deh ya", so he cut in front of da person in front of me and dat person tell him da same ting and he cut in front of dat person, den the cop came and wen yell at him and tell him the line starts back deh ya.
September 9th, 2011 at 6:20 am
Really? Now THAT's justice!
Sad thing is, I bet he wasn't even shame. Cuz people like dat no mo' shame.
September 9th, 2011 at 6:24 am
Sometimes the offender has unintentionally offended.
Like this one time there was a gal at Safeway in the 15 items or less line and she unloaded like a whole wagon of groceries on the belt and the cashier neva even say anything and there she was, smiling at all the people in line acting so "duh" like what... she neva know?
....No, I neva know.
*was shame*
September 9th, 2011 at 6:26 am
people now days are just so rude, and inconsiderate...
September 9th, 2011 at 6:41 am
Because I am so short, I think people just don't see me when they cut in front of me. This has happened ALL THE TIME at the main post office in Seattle. I used to just fume, but now I do what M does and I say, in my nicest voice possible (under the circumstances), "Excuse me, but the end of the line is over there." If they don't pay attention to me, I think of all kinds of curses to rain down on them.
September 9th, 2011 at 6:43 am
masako gave me dis coupon fo one free bottle of Pentene shampoo so I go to da stoa get da shampoo and give da coupon to da cashier. She rings it up and tell me I gotta pay fo da tax. Oh, I no moa any money cause suppose to be free, Oh da shame I gotta tell the cashier I no moa any money, den the guy behind me in line say, "no worry brah I get em". Oh I feel mo shame, just like I homeless, no moa money for da tax. I tell him, "Eh, tanks brah" and I left fast. So shame.....
September 9th, 2011 at 6:51 am
sorry eh BL, that was me, huuu you must have give me one really stink eye!
Actually I did that at Longs one time, but went back in line when realized had this new system, trying to think if the tech told me or I saw the sign. That Longs tech should have been more alert and not let "uncle" cut in line. Anyways, I'm thinking "uncle" was clueless and would have given him mental slack. I don't have many WWD moments, live by the Alfred E Neuman mantra...What, me worry? ...get low blood pressure and slow heart beat. For really makule seniors or handicapped, I have no problem letting them go ahead of line. Some elders may be suffering from dementia or other age related mental issues. But who knows, what that "uncle" was thinking, could have been a "ainokea" a**h*** yeah BL?
Okay, what do you think of drivers who know that 2 lanes will merge and speed up on the merging lane and "cut" into traffic? or from back of cars lined up, go into clear lane and cut in front? I can think of nimitz viaduct heading Diamond Head with 2 lanes merging to one. Right lane is usually clear with most in left lane...sort of like standing in line and someone wants to cut in at the end. I think okay if you don't have to slow down while car is cutting in or merging. These drivers are very good at finding gaps but you have to brake otherwise going hit em...yeow, think BP going up.
September 9th, 2011 at 7:11 am
Howzit everybody and Happy Aloha Friday! 😀
September 9th, 2011 at 7:24 am
So I start off my day today......go to BL's blog......... and notice dat one new blog stay up. I also notice NOBODY POSTED YET. OL smiles "ear to ear".
I start talking to myself....nutting too "deep".....and craft a post.........and "UNCLE M" cuts in front of me!
OL............tings always happen to him
September 9th, 2011 at 8:26 am
It's "a hui hou" - "until we meet again", not "a hui ho" - "a group of ho's"
September 9th, 2011 at 9:01 am
😎 Happy Feel Good Friday!!! 😎
... hey Braddah Lance ... Welcome Back!!! ... sorry, you've been back a while, huh? ... so glad to know we have a place to rant and complain, but it's all good ... and plus we get one place to buss out da pidgin too bebe!!! ... haha!!! ...
... I have the utmost respect for my elders ... and not because I think they're more frail, vulnerable and need more help ... it's because I know they have way more life experience and with it, more wisdom ... they've already "been there" and "done that" ...
... sometimes, the elderly are a brash, blunt and a little rude ... but, hey, they get a pass from me ... at least, the much older ones, anyway ... and at my age there seems to be more younger people and less and less older than me ...
... Have a Good One Everyone!!! ...
September 9th, 2011 at 9:27 am
simple solution: go somewhere else for your prescriptions. Longs is no longer the ubiquitous choice for prescriptions, though some people make it out to be.
September 9th, 2011 at 9:38 am
I hate that....I usually talk loud under my breath and hopefully the person will hear me. The clerk is just as stupid...they know there is a line and should look towards the line and not accept anyone that just walks up. I appreciate a clerk who tells people they have to wait in line...happened at the post office last week.
September 9th, 2011 at 9:54 am
I always respect my elders. That's why snow and I get along so well.
I think most of the time the kupuna do those kinds of things, they don't realize that they're doing it. It's not malicious. For that, I just shake my head and give em a pass.
September 9th, 2011 at 10:02 am
happy FGF everybodies.
no can tink...being old,kupuna,any age...no get you one pass fo do wat you like. gotta respect. an I bet dat gentleman goes to church every sunday.
September 9th, 2011 at 10:12 am
BL,
Where do you think the young rude people learn their bad habits from? They watch the old farts with the "me first" attitude get away with things because the "nice" people don't want to hurt their feelings. What you should have done was talk loudly to the clerk and say something like "hey, the rest of us are in line here!". I've done it before and I'll do it again. People just take rude behavior because its not polite to say something, then they go home and stew about it. Bullsh_t, stand up for yourselves.
September 9th, 2011 at 10:14 am
I'm just like bamboo house. I figure seniors are tired or cannot stand
In line as long, so I always let them go. Not so for able bodied buggahs, but I try to tell them nicely
Because sometimes I'm the clueless one and I'm horrified.
September 9th, 2011 at 10:16 am
I agree with rayboyjr., no need sweat the small stuffs. I like to plan my days and go accordingly, most times it goes smoothly =)
To each their own.....sometimes, people have no common sense or they have no care in the world cause something bad happened to them at one point in time?? Oh well, life goes on.
Happy Aloha Friday World =)
September 9th, 2011 at 10:17 am
At what age would be an elder or senior citizen?
September 9th, 2011 at 11:27 am
Maybe i told this story befo but....
One time I went to Costco to buy a tire. I got there about 20 minutes before opening and sat down on the tables outside the door (Iwilei). Pretty soon a few more people came and we all casually waited for the doors to open. About 5 minutes before opening, this 50 something grungy looking haole guy plants himself right in front of the door. He doesn't ask anybody if we are already waiting (but kinda obvious) and the door opens and he rushes inside.
Well, this othr local guy who is third in line says to the Costco guy "eh, he not first, dis guy was first" pointing to me. He is told to get to the back of the line which is about 6 deep now. He makes like he no can hea and tries to get service. The local braddah makes a move to assist the gentleman to the back of the line and the guy takes a flop right outside the door. He starts screaming assault, injury, etc. The manager comes, the cops come, and finally the ambulance comes because he wont get off the ground.
They take him away and we can get back to being good consumers. I think and thank the local braddah cause I believe we gotta call people on their inconsiderate behavior. Das all.
September 9th, 2011 at 11:52 am
CW, good story, Costco clerk did good to escort him out and to call 911, guy had mental issues by the sounds of it and probably ended up at Queen's Kekela unit for observation. However, can't judge too harshly, he has some serious health problems and may not be able to behave appropriately.
September 9th, 2011 at 12:49 pm
if I am in bad move I tell the person off..but if I am in happy move I let them cut in and I go home let my husband line up for prescription...funny!
Usually if they look desperate I let them cut in no problem...I hope someday someone will let me cut in.
September 9th, 2011 at 1:27 pm
I normally don't say anything...I just grumbo to my husband or who ever I'm with!! LoL!! I don't mind when people tell the line jumpers something, but some ppl get so angry, it's almost not even worth it...
September 9th, 2011 at 1:40 pm
If they ask me if they could go ahead of me, that wouldn't be a problem.
September 9th, 2011 at 1:49 pm
Wow, bh808, didn't take long for the trash talking to start again, huh? Just like old times 🙂
September 9th, 2011 at 2:06 pm
i usually say "excuse me, i'm next." however, BL, if you want to give the man the benefit of the doubt, last time i went to long's, they weren't finished with part of the prescription i was picking up so they told me to come back straight to the counter in about 20 minutes, no need stand in line! so, i did... i dunno if the other peeps who were waiting thought that i was cutting, but i had already stood in line twice!
when i was working in retail and if there was a bunch of peeps who were waiting at the register for service, i'd ask who was next. people are generally honest about that and they'll point out whoever was there first.
@bamboohouse808 - oh how i've missed you. 🙄 🙄 🙄 bwahahahaha!
September 9th, 2011 at 2:08 pm
@KAN - i don't think bamboo ever stopped! lol.
September 9th, 2011 at 3:11 pm
And to you goes Da Quote of Da Day.....
"See everything; overlook a great deal; correct a little." ~Pope John XXIII
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You must be old.... too slow. 😆
So now you calling M old?
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Right back at 'cha!
You say dat all da time... or are there "pass" situations?
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Did you expect anything different from da "elder" baboozes? 😆
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Fo' real kine? I no can understand dat kine. Thank goodness da cop wen step in.... but das kinda sad dat it took one cop to "correct" common courtesy and nothing to do wit da law. 🙄
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But it's wat you do AFTAH you know dat counts. People make mistakes but how you handle 'em aftah dat mattahs.
HA HA HA!
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And it seems being da nice guy doesn't mean you're nice any more... sadly, it now looks like you da suckah.
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Ha ha ha. Reminds me Police Academy's Officer Laverne Hooks.... don't piss her off.
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I take it you didn't read da fine print.
Ha ha ha! Wait.... was it women's shampoo? 😯
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Nah, I was too amused by da murse. 😆
You know, I would have not even minded really but his demeanor really did "show" like he knew wat he was doing. He even pointed to his meds on the back counter. 🙄
Rogah. I do too most times.... unless I eat kim chee.
I really tink was da latter.
I actually really get irritated by dat cause they know they gotta switch lanes and refuse to take any oddah space - even if there is WIDE OPEN SPACE one car length behind. 🙄
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Right back at 'cha!
September 9th, 2011 at 6:03 pm
Good Evening.
I am a big guy so no excuse for not seeing me in line. 🙂
I used to work retail. I would tell someone that the other person was first so they need to step back.
I once worked in an office that we worked with the public through windows. This one guy neva like leave. So I walked outside and started working on the customer behind him.
September 9th, 2011 at 6:04 pm
@CW- that Costco story sounds like the guy was setting something up.
September 9th, 2011 at 8:40 pm
Ai-goo. 😳 Das wat I get for posting dis at 4am. Mahalos for catching da oversight.
E Komo Mai to WWD! JHAKANA! Hopefully you won't have to correct any more. 😀
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Rogah! No worries, we won't hold dat against you. 😛
So shouldn't they be more tolerant and patient having da experiences?
Damn - I'll nevah be older than you. 😆
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Simple answer... Not practical for us and in all fairness, it really wasn't Longs but da makule uncle dat needed a reality slap. Longs will be Longs to many until da older generation passes - wat happens aftah dat who knows.
And E Komo Mai to WWD! aaron! I'm glad you dropped in and shared your mana'o.
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I do dat wit Da Wife.... sometimes I get SOS.
Amen to dat.
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But seriously, can't you tell which makule people are okoleheads and which are "old and sweet"? I tink most people will always choose to let things go wen they are da latter. "Uncle" was definitely not da latter. 😐
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Das wat I believe too. Get my neighbor across da street (90 year young Uncle) dat NEVAH ack li'dat. He's been through wars (plural) and he would actually try knock you out if you ack like one punk. 😯
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But then das da sad part on da youngin's. Nice people will always be nice and I hope it stays dat way.
Totally understandable and doable. At da moment it didn't seem all so urgent dat I needed to get da meds so I guess I nevah like make scene. I can see it going differently though if I needed dat right away or if I late for something.
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We all clueless sometimes....
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Good point! Buuuuut... should a complete stranger know or be aware of dat life changing moment? We all run into dat one point in time wea we say, "if I only known" but if we all just live pono, wouldn't dat solve - or avoid - most of da "normal" societal problems?
Wow! Dis must be a record for new posters! E Komo Mai to WWD! Toekinam!
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September 10th, 2011 at 5:37 am
Good morning everybody!!
As far as I'm concerned, it's not about whether I respect my elders or not, it's about whether or not the people out there deserve my respect. Act like an idiot, and I will NOT respect you, regardless of your age.
September 10th, 2011 at 6:37 am
Good Morning! And just to REMIND the good peeps ova hea at WWD.......my IDIOT ELDER UNCLE NEIGHBOR did his usual this morning at 3:23 a.m.! And "no" it wasn't his morning "doo".
"SLAMMMMM!"...................then I hear him shooting out a bucket with the hose like he's gonna wash his car then 22 seconds later "SLAMMMMM!" as he goes back into his house. Now if he washes MY CAR den I give him a pass....but he doesn't. 🙁
This "Uncle" has no friggin consideration for anyone.
Sorry for sounding like an old coot but if OL no get this out of his system as he starts his day he might SLAMMMMM! somebody.
OL................getting ready to show "aloha" to everyone he meets today
September 10th, 2011 at 6:57 am
OL might SLAMMMM somebody? Awww, is that all? 😈
September 10th, 2011 at 7:05 am
@OL: SLAMMer still living next door? daayumm. And I neva realize his SLAMMin' was so early in da A.M.!
September 11th, 2011 at 12:22 pm
Not first. Am I too late for the party? Coconut Willy: oh my. Costco guy was either crazy or setting something up. Good grief. I hate when people cut in line! I have done it by mistake a couple times. Felt bad too!
September 11th, 2011 at 1:52 pm
OL:
Get yourself one of those portable air horns that uses a can of freon gas (the environmentally friendly one) or a compressed air driven one. Next time you hear a SLAAAMMM, point the air horn from outside your door aimed at your neighbor and let loose.....do it on every SLAAAAM you hear...he'll get the message
September 12th, 2011 at 5:02 pm
Glad da braddah said something too. It's pretty refreshing to see dat people still try and do da decent thing.
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Dat may be da case but how are we to diagnose at dat exact moment or situation without knowing background and would anyone actually look for background in everyday situations? We all try and follow behaviors set forth by society... so how do we turn it off?
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I look desparate everyday... so I get to cut in front of you every time? 😀 E Komo Mai back Rosette.
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I do too most times. Don't you tink it's kinda funny wen you do grumbo and den da person behind or in front agrees but den both you guys still no say nothing? 😆
You know, I really no get dat either wen THEY in da wrong and someone calls them out on it and it's everyone else who's standing in line dat's wrong. 😯
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Au' rite! I going make surah to look for you in line. 😀
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Das da polite thing to do... I gotta learn dat.
Das ok cause we see dat all da time buuuuuuuut, doesn't da clerk LOOK at you and tell you to come as well signaling dat he's going to help you? I do dat all da time. Once I pau wit watevah I had to do, I just stand wea da clerk can see me and I just wait till he signal me ovah to make surah dat people standing in line no tink I cutting.
So I guess cutting in line for you doesn't work either. 😛
Shweeeet!
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Excellent point. I'm li'dat too.... except wen get da kine bleeding heart kine situations in which case I'm a pushovah. 🙄
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You like borrow my bullhorn?
Should I book a pay-per-view time?
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Who's late? Wat pah-tay?
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I second dat.... although you nevah hea' me say dat.