By Braddah Lance
After attending the Pray For Drew 52 fundraiser, it was fun seeing old friends and meeting new ones. There were a lot of helping hands to make the event successful and it was much appreciated by everyone who attended in person as well as in spirit.
They say things happen in threes and I'll admit I'm hoping (wishing) the adage is false right now.
At the fundraising event, I found out a very good friend of mine - since we were 13 - dad had passed away. The very eerie part of it was that I just saw her last week at a baby luau and we briefly talked about her dad. He passed away either later that same day or the next.
I was floored.
She wasn't in attendence considering but my heart sank standing there attending a fundraiser for a little boy whose fighting for his life while hearing such tragic news of a passing.
After we got home late and I was jumping out of my truck, my 90 year old neighbor as he usually does every Sunday, calls me over to pah-tay some more. I "reluctantly" oblige and notice a smaller crowd than usual and upon picking up a remark towards me, Aunty pulls me to the side and informs me that her husband was really sorry that he wasn't able to make it to Da Baby's 1st luau which was about a month ago.
I said, no worries and didn't think twice about it untill I noticed he wasn't there.
She then began to say that he had cancer and it spread quickly and while he really wanted to be at Da Baby's luau, he couldn't muster up the strength to attend after treatment. He passed away shortly after. I was taken aback and cried with her as she went through his struggles but it was good for Aunty to share and let it out.
After several hugs, I crossed the street, went upstairs and hugged Da Wife.
Is it selfish to thank God that while my ohana lay safe, dat my ohana outside of relatives are going through such tragic times all around me? Are any of us really safe? Not to be depressing or anything, but how do you cope with other people's tragedy?
I've told each of my friends that whatever they need, I'm there. Will they take me up on that? Probably not. During times where life itself is involved, immediate relatives step in and friends are there for the cushion afterwards. Isn't that a touchy area? Wat if a friend(s) were "showing up" a relative? Or wat if da relatives were passive in helping? How/when do you step in when everyone is sensitive?
I don't want to hear about a third especially with tonight being Halloween so stay safe, check all your blind spots and stay vigilant for keiki crossing the street and lolo's acking lolo.
Go home, have fun, pah-tay up but before anything else, go hug your wife, your husband, your daughter, your son, your aunty, your uncle, your mom, your dad. Give a relative or a friend you've been meaning to call a ring just to say wassup. Let 'em know you love 'em.