Etiquette 101

February 25th, 2012
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I'm constantly amazed at how inconsiderate people are in one of the most common situations in everyday life.....

Elevator etiquette.

Here's the situation. You're in the elevator - regardless if it's just you or it's packed - and it doesn't matter which floor you're getting off - usually it's the bottom floor - but once the door opens a flood of people try to rush in.

Wassup Wit Dat!

We, da people IN da elevator, are trying fo' get OUT! It's simple logic. You can't fill a can a can dat's full so why try to pour more in? Imagine salmon trying to swim upstream during spawning season and you'll know exactly wat I mean.

Da Wife and I were at Ala Moana earlier tonight and da two times we went on da elevator, twice we had to fight da current. No mattah wea we go - it's especially worse in Vegas - but since wen did it become so life threatening to get in an elevator da moment da door opens? And to make mattahs worse, wen da heck did it become ok to just stand right in front of da opening preventing da people from going out quickly and not making a pathway?

Da first time, we had to go AROUND da salmon and then we get da shmall kine stink eye action going even though we were da ones dat had to go around them. Da second time I just wen 4x4 Bigfoot action with da stroller - Da Wife was carrying Da Baby behind me - and made a path..... everybody in da elevator followed. :grin:

Sam's Club in Pearl City is a mattah of cha-cha-cha'ing. Once da door opens on da bottom floor you gotta wait for da lolos outside da elevator to move their carts out of da way just so you can get out. Why they nevah just do dat in da first place just bewilders me. It's such a tight area and still yet nobody even tinks to make room. Then we dance. 1-2-cha-cha-cha. 3-4-cha-cha-cha. It's a dance you go through EVERYTIME.

Elevator etiquette is not a situation wea people are unfamiliar with and it's definitely not a situation wea you dunno wat to do.... so why does it happen all da frickin' time?

One last thing about Etiquette 101-Elevators, if you da last person to get off, hold da elevator door open till da first person gets in.

We've all been there but let's show some malama on a such a simple act of courtesy.

Or no be surprised if I run your okole ovah wit da stroller. :lol:








24 Responses to “Etiquette 101”

  1. Makiki:

    Unfortunately a good number of folks are self centered and it never occurs to them that there are others on the elevator that will try to get out before they can get in. They just stake their spot and concentrate on what is going on with their smartphone. Then when the elevator door opens it takes a minute before they realize - Hey! I can't go in because there are people trying to get out.

    I feel your pain BL. I especially like the folks that turn sideways to try to get by you to get on the elevator as you are exiting. I hope they are making good use of all of the fractions of seconds they are (not) saving!

    Alan


  2. roach:

    BL,

    Being a frequent visitor to Vegas, I have to disagree with you about the lack of elevator etiquette by the people. The people will always wait until the people in the elevator have exited before trying enter and older people & women are allowed to enter first too. I have never noticed this rude behavior in Hawaii too. Maybe you attract rude people.


  3. M:

    Howzit BL!

    It's people wit dat Ainokea attitude or no common sense.


  4. Ocean Lover:

    Eh BL.......you forget da uddah Elevator Etiquette Rule ........NO FUT IN DA ELEVATOR and den leave so da next person gets TRAPPED IN DERE WITH YOUR "SCENT".


  5. Keoni:

    Eh BL, why don't we make a sport of this? For instance, if you get cart/baby stroller/whatevah, aim for da lolo in da cellphone lala zone; dats 500 points. 1000 if you knock 'em on their 'okole! :shock:
    Get da idea?


  6. B:

    jus make one Iosefa!


  7. M:

    One time I was waiting for da elevator and when it opened I smelled fut. All da people in da elevator had a serious face and no body when exit and I neva go in. Afta da door when close, I wen buss out laughing.


  8. pali:

    I think the elevator company or the business that has the elevator should place signage in the the elevator to educate or remind people of elevator etiquette. Many people from around the world come here to visit or live and many aren't familiar of this etiquette. I think it's time to reintroduce civil manners in public settings so we all can peacefully co-exist for years to come. It's small situations like this that escalate into larger problems like road rage or disrespectful behavior toward the elderly, etc.


  9. wafan:

    How about people who stop/park/leave their shopping carts in the middle of the aisle at stores or stop to talk story while blocking a doorway?


  10. Braddah Lance:

    Makiki:
    ...They just stake their spot and concentrate on what is going on with their smartphone.

    Smartphone's for not so smart people? :lol:

    I especially like the folks that turn sideways to try to get by you to get on the elevator as you are exiting. I hope they are making good use of all of the fractions of seconds they are (not) saving!Ha ha ha! And they still gotta wait once they get in cause da people dat was waiting only now getting on. :roll:
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    roach:
    Being a frequent visitor to Vegas, I have to disagree with you about the lack of elevator etiquette by the people.

    I tink you stay Downtown... right? I stay on da Strip and they are a different breed. Downtown get Hawaii people and mainland people dat appreciate Hawaii people so most live in harmony. :grin: Da Strip get choke clubs and TONS of people who no can handle their liquid courgage.

    I have never noticed this rude behavior in Hawaii too.

    Heh? Nevah? Whoa. You one lucky guy cause I'll bet you a plate lunch dat dat 95% of da WWD! Hui - who will brave to post on da blog - have experienced da salmon run. I wish you longetivity on your streak of avoiding da salmon run. :grin:

    Maybe you attract rude people.

    LOL! Maybe I do... or maybe I just notice it more. Or maybe I should change deodorant. :lol:
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    M:
    It's people wit dat Ainokea attitude or no common sense.

    I tink they only care wen it happens to them. I bet you if had da same people reversed, they would tink WWD! too cause it's happening to them.
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    Ocean Lover:
    Eh BL.......you forget da uddah Elevator Etiquette Rule ........NO FUT IN DA ELEVATOR and den leave so da next person gets TRAPPED IN DERE WITH YOUR "SCENT".

    HA HA HA! You mean da "booby trap". My friend did dat once.... while we were inside with him! :shock:
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    Keoni:
    Eh BL, why don't we make a sport of this? For instance, if you get cart/baby stroller/whatevah, aim for da lolo in da cellphone lala zone; dats 500 points. 1000 if you knock 'em on their 'okole!

    Or rig da stroller to shoot stink bomb juice on their shoes with a push of a button? Hmmm....
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    B:
    jus make one Iosefa!

    Now, now. It should NEVAH go dat far, evah. I certainly pray to God dat our society will NEVAH trend towards dat kine of behavior.
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    M:
    One time I was waiting for da elevator and when it opened I smelled fut. All da people in da elevator had a serious face and no body when exit and I neva go in.

    WOW! I guess people had to be somewea real bad. I would have gotten off to take in some fresh oxygen.
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    pali:
    I think the elevator company or the business that has the elevator should place signage in the the elevator to educate or remind people of elevator etiquette.

    Now das an idea considering how long we usually wait for an elevator.... but then again, if they do dat I just wondah how long it'll be before there would be some kine advertising cluttering it.

    Many people from around the world come here to visit or live and many aren't familiar of this etiquette.

    I can only speak from experience but Japanee people not so much li'dat wea they try to rush in. Da biggest thing about da Japanee people is dat they try to jam pack da elevator as much as they can cause das how they do it back home. I visited Japan twice and there are actualy "people pushers" dat "politely" urge da crowd to make room. At least I wasn't da shortest person so I wasn't in someone's armpit. :grin:

    I think it's time to reintroduce civil manners in public settings so we all can peacefully co-exist for years to come. It's small situations like this that escalate into larger problems like road rage or disrespectful behavior toward the elderly, etc.

    Rogah Dat! Das why it's up to Da WWD! Hui to share, spread and live da aloha we all treasure to perpetuate wat we want for future generations.
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    wafan:
    How about people who stop/park/leave their shopping carts in the middle of the aisle at stores or stop to talk story while blocking a doorway?

    No even get me started on those. I make it a point to move all da way to da side and constantly aware if I'm blocking someone wanting something behind me.


  11. SASSY7:

    BL...that is something that we need to teach our keiki's...I have gone to many stores where people rush in and look at you like you some slow..or even try to rush thru the door so they don't need to hold it for you...when my son is with me..he knows...he holds the door for whom ever and what ever...even in elevators...if were in it..he will hold the open door button till all of our party is off...then if there are more getting in..he will ask another to hold the door so that those getting on may do so...and then we go on our merry way...I have had many comment on his courteousness...and have even had mothers say..."see you need to do that too"...I've had many grandmothers compliment my son...and he will just smile.....my pet peeve about this is that my brothers do it...sorry ..to say...no my hubby doesn't do it...so I make sure my son does it...just some thing I think is important...
    I think our society has gotten in the "me first" attitude..and forget that their are others in the world that we can show kindness and malama along our life's path....
    smile I tell my keiki's everytime they leave the hale..someone will smile back....compliment and recognize someone when the opportunity arises...and if it ain't about you..dont get included in the gossip...but if it it..set it straight..state the facts....and move on...a life full of respect for self and others is far worth more....then not having it (respect) at all...


  12. anklebiters:

    It must be a Hawaii thang ;-) ....never had to make like an NFL running back to get out of an elevator here...the hardest decision the peeps inside of an elevator have to make is who exits first..you go, no you go...


  13. Seawalker:

    BL, no hu-hu, call Magoos. Just teach dose buggahs a lesson. When we were young, we'd push the buttons to each and every floor. Even when not needing to get off. So if those buggahs no like move, start pushing the buttons to every floor and give them the scenic route!


  14. Ocean Lover:

    Had a WWD moment yesterday. I'm with a friend driving down from Kamehameha Schools and just when we get to the bottom of the hill where it meets up with the road in back of the shopping center we see these two scarlet macaws flying in unison above the houses! Must have gotten loose....or flew several THOUSAND MILES here?

    Anyone heard of these macaws flying around Kalihi? Beautiful birds..............


  15. Ynaku:

    Can imagine da same people that gave the stink eye trying to get on will give the same stick eye to da people when they trying to get off. They have no clue. Common courtesy is to let them off first so you get room.

    I go with OL's suggestion to "bomb" or give da AftahBurner. :lol:


  16. Ynaku:

    Or just give a holler "EXCUSE ME LET ME OFF FIRST!"


  17. che:

    I experience the same thing as Ynaku. When the elevator reaches the ground floor, all the people try to squeeze in without letting the people out of the elavator first.


  18. KAN:

    BL, I cannot tell you how many times I've waited for some idiot reading his/her iPhone to realize that the door is open and they need to leave the elevator. They blink twice (you can see the gears moving in their heads) before they remember to move their feet.

    I have yelled at people for trying to board the bus who squeeze past me before I can exit. I might understand wanting to board the bus if it's raining (duh, Seattle) or if it's really cold, but you still have to wait your d@mned turn.


  19. 9thIslandGirl:

    Somehow seniors and kids seem to be the worst offenders of rushing the elevators when people are trying to get out. That's been my experience, and I live in a high rise so I see that almost every day!


  20. M:

    Guud morning BL :!: :)


  21. zzzzzz:

    Kan, don't the buses have a middle door for exiting? TheBus does; I thought those who wanted to exit through the front door were the inconsiderate ones who make the loading/unloading process take longer than necessary.


  22. snow:

    every day when i come to work, i have to ride the elevator to get to the lobby floor of the building where i park. almost every day, someone tries to rush in the elevator while i'm trying to get out. sometimes, everyone gets in before i can get out!! WWD?!! most days, however, i try to almost "jump" out quickly but still have to maneuver my way through the people who are standing right outside the door! duh... move on the side, people! :roll:

    @OL - i've seen the macaws before - maybe twice a few weeks ago. my husband had seen them several times before that, though. i haven't seen them recently but i guess they are still flying around!


  23. KAN:

    @zzzzzz: Some buses have 3 doors, but it depends on the size of the bus. All doors are used for entering and exiting (at least downtown - too long to explain the ride-free zone), but lolos are everywhere.

    @OL & snow - when Sweetie and I were last home, we went to visit my grandparents at O`ahu Cemetery (Ewa side). There were green parrots flying between the banyan trees & mango trees in another yard. They were very noisy.


  24. M:

    Guud morning BL!
    Happy Leap Year Day!