When It Gets Real
It's amazing to see how much experiences one's life can, well, experience.
In my short lifetime, I can say I've experienced more than my fair share of both good and bad and even talking with Da Wife sometimes she's even kinda like, "Huh? Really?" or "Not!". All I can say is that I've seen - and been in - so much stuff that while I'm glad I've gone through it, at the same time I've always wondered why.
While I shared so many mo'olelo's with da WWD! Hui - believe me, it's da selected "PG-13" only version hea - I probably could fill up an entire Harry Potter series with Twilight thrown in just for kicks and that would be just pre-college experiences at that too.
But last week was yet anoddah chapter dat I shook my head at wondering why did I have to "know". I got a text late at night that a distant friend I knew had passed.
He was going through some very rough times and without sharing the details what happened to him leading to his passing, it was something that I would have gone full on pupule ovah as well. The guys I know that worked with him were trying their best to keep a close eye on him and things appeared to be improving. The most ironic part of it all was his profession dealt with recognizing issues and helping others through a wide range of things from emotional to financial but this one hit home hard.
I tried all last week to come up with something to blog about but my mind just blanked out and thought of him. I just couldn't muster up any energy to post a single thing. It's one of those things that while you're perfectly fine and can go on with your day but on those instances when you have short silences and your thoughts roam free, I just keep thinking of what he was possibly going through.
While I didn't know him very well, I always saw him either smiling or having a hearty booming laugh. He's one of those guys that smiled so much, he had those smiley wrinkly lines on his face.
It's just anoddah experience that I have to add to my nevah ending novel and without sharing any more details, it's something I hope no one else will evah go through.
The only thing that I can take away from it is that if you have a friend or family member that's going through a pretty serious life experience, even though it's one of those things that we all say "takes time to heal", be an a$$ and make sure that s/he is/will be ok. While your friend might brush you off or even be pissed, at the very least, they'll know that you care and sometimes that's all that's needed to win the fight. Keep reinforcing to da ones you care about dat no mattah wat, they can count on you just to be there but more importantly reach out when you have a feeling something isn't right.
While I may not know who's behind da computah reading WWD!, if there's evah someone you need to talk to or vent to - obviously anonymously - I know da WWD! Hui is always welcoming for dat...... at da very least, you know I am.