No Talk Stink If You No Mo' Facts
By Braddah Lance
Last week I was given a heads up from a Kwonic who's also an avid reader of Uncle Rodney's Midlife Crisis blog. In one of Uncle's post last week - besides talking about old people stuff
- he brought up an issue we've blogged about on many occasions: changes in keiki today. Hea's an excerpt of wat he wrote:
I know that Bruddah Lance is very old-school when he coaches. He teaches respect! His players always answer with “Yes, sir” or “No, sir”. And they wouldn’t dare answer back to Bruddah Lance – not even under their breath – unless they enjoy running laps.
Then a past Kwonic had posted dis response:
@ct @mark – Went to school with coach (B)rian Yoshii. Back in 2010, Hawaii was doing good in the Little League in Williamsport and almost took the whole enchalada. His method? Whenever he instructs the kids, it’s always in this sequence. Praise first, tell the kid what he’s doing wrong, and then praise the kid again. Braddah Lance’s way is sort of outdated and should be modified with Coach Yoshii’s way.
BL: How’s the arm holding up?
Pitcher: Still got some juice left.
BL: You know after each fastball you throw for a strike? You cannot pick your nose and put the booger on your uniform thinking how it intimidates the batters.
Pitcher: Uh, okay.
BL: You can do it, and don’t put any snot on the ball.
Pitcher: Okay, coach.
And hea's my response:
Uncle Rod – I going apologize ahead of time for hijacking your post by responding but when someone questions someone elses character and suggest they change without justification behind their back, I definitely going respond.
@ Seawalker – “Braddah Lance’s way is sort of outdated and should be modified with Coach Yoshii’s way.”
Before you go on criticizing or even generalizing about someone’s coaching, go find about it first before you slam that person with your suggestion to “modify”.
How do you know my methods are outdated? Have you been to any of my practices in 19 years? Yes, 19 straight. Do you even have a clue what goes on in my practices? Do you know that I volunteer my time (Feb-Jun six days a week), equipment (I had to get a shed for it all) AND money (I stopped keeping track after $7k) to kids I have zero relation to? And no, I have NEVER had any sons, daughters, nephews, nieces or cousins on the team.
Have you even the slightest clue as to the population area that I coach in?
They are either latch-key kids with divorced parents, single parents, (several) boyfriend/ (several) girlfriend or just left alone while their parents work and I’ve seen kids as young as six or seven cruising the park. Only this past year have I seen more than half the team with steady married parents. Most just drop off their kids for “free baby-sitting” and “exercise”.
Majority are destitute and are considered “park-rats” (same as gym-rats but at the park) since they are at the park from after school till the evening just hanging out.
The kids lack basic discipline and any type of motivation to do anything. Now while that is not the case for all kids, it is the theme that goes around this neighborhood. And that is just the bare layout of the situation.
As far as coaching goes, as Uncle Rodney mentioned, I am old-school. I’ll make ‘em sweat, cry, tear them down and yet have them coming back for more because they’ve never been pushed like that before. And yes, I ALWAYS use POSITIVE REINFORCEMENTS! And I don’t tell the player what s/he’s doing wrong…. I SHOW THEM!
I’m a firm believer that if I can’t do it, why should they? I run laps with them, I do drills with them and believe it or not, I make it fun for them at the same time because why would anyone do anything that isn’t fun?
Furthermore, the reason why I coach is – and I’ll bet my house, bike and truck on it – is far apart from about 95% of all youth coaches out there. All the coaches I’ve seen have a son or daughter on the team and move with them. I don’t. My goal, as I tell every parent in the MANDATORY team meeting, is to build a better person – not a better PLAYER. Baseball is just the tool to do it.
Every coach I’ve come across only wants to WIN WIN WIN. I don’t even tell our players the score and if they ask, they’ll run during the game.
Coach Yoshii is a stand up guy (from what I read about him) but it’s like comparing a Mercedes to a Pinto. Keep in mind that the players he – and the like get – are experienced players for the most part and have been around the sport for years. I get players don’t even know that 3 strikes and you’re out. And btw, he has a staff of coaches…. I’ve had only one other main coach but he’s since retired 7 years ago and I’ve been doing it alone ever since.
And I always spin some back to people who say that I only coach this way cause I can’t win with players that I got…….. tell that to the last 7 of 12 regular season championships and 6 of 12 playoff championships we’ve taken. On a side note about that though, the biggest joy the players get out of the championship game?
The grinds aftah, not the trophy.
That’s just scratching the surface and sorry, this is not the time nor the venue for it. Sorry again Uncle Rodney.
Next time you try and drop my name insinuating my coaching methods are obsolete, put on my cleats and step up. Until then, shut da heck up King’s Okole [he called himself that in an earlier response]. If that’s the type of respect you teach your keiki, I certainly hope they sign up next season for a rude awakening.
btw, hannah-battah on da ball is illegal.
Braddah Lance
I also wanted to add that I try to instill character, morals and values into every single player that comes through my program and as "old school" as it may seem, it works. I have players that come back the very next year after leaving the program wishing they could play one more year. I have players that come back YEARS later - even aftah graduation - to da field to talk story and let me know wea they're at. Can oddah youth coaches say da same?
Oh yeah, do oddah youth coaches do grade checks without it having to be required by da league? Do they also assign regular essays and offer tutoring before or aftah practice? Do they stay, at times, till 8pm+ at da field with da player(s) waiting for their parent(s) to pick him/her up?
I also actually "talk" to my players as well. We talk about da fights they witness, da girls they are texting and things they may or may not share with their parents. I stress to them that it's ok to stand up for what's right no mattah how hard it may be and that it definitely is the world's toughest thing to do to stand in front of a friend and say it's wrong.
I am not paid nor am I rewarded by any means. In fact, HPD (Honolulu Police Department) has not even once thanked or acknowledged my efforts and contributions to PAL (Police Activities League). Wait, I did get a koa bowl from Officer Frank who was the ONLY PAL baseball director (I've had about seven or eight different ones) who cared about the program but that was once in 19 years. But I don't do it for the thanks and I certainly don't do it for the recognition - it's just something that I truly feel I have an opportunity to give back and help keiki grow. As cliche as it may sound, my biggest reward is just being able to contribute and help ease the tough job parents have already.
It's really sad to see someone "suggest" that one's methods should be changed without even having an iota of wat the methods are. It's just like someone telling Sam Choy, Roy Yamaguchi or DK Kodama that their signature recipes should be changed up. Would you tell someone how to do something without even having done it yourself?
Wassup Wit Dat!
Anyways, sorry for da long winded mo'olelo but it's kinda hard to condense 19 years into a single blog. Oh yeah, if you got any 10-12 (depending, but 13 year olds too) dat you want to send to an old school boot camp next year.... send 'em my way and like I tell parents, I can't guarantee they'll become a better ball player but I can guarantee they'll come out a bettah person. ![]()




Wassup Wit Dat!





September 5th, 2012 at 6:05 am
Howzit BL!
You da man! You doing a Great job wit these kids. If wasn't fo you some of these kids might be going in da wrong dirrection and getting into trouble la dat. You giving up all your free time for these kids and giving back to da community. MAHALO!
September 5th, 2012 at 7:08 am
I take it you nevah get one apology from da guy. At least I did when I nevah know all da facts!
Keep on BL!
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September 5th, 2012 at 7:10 am
You gett'um, BL! And fo' sure you will be rewarded in ways other than recognition and koa bowls.
daWife must be proud!
daBaby has da best role model!
And me? I'm just proud to say I know you!
September 5th, 2012 at 7:23 am
Long time lurker coming out to say,
YOU DA MAN!
September 5th, 2012 at 8:21 am
Kudos BL! I grew up in sports and only when I got to high school did I realize what sports has given me. I learned not only how to play but those things you can take and use in life like teamwork, dedication and descipline, working hard to achieve your goals, respect and being humble when you win and gracious when you lose.
September 5th, 2012 at 8:44 am
BL,
My son played for Lakeside when you coached. As for what was said about you, you should always take the high road, my brother. In responding as you did, you lowered yourself to the same level as those who wallowed in the mud calling you a pig. You were a good coach and I enjoy reading your blog. Take the high road. These fools do not know you or your methods. Leave it at that. If you posted what the mud wallowers wrote about you and left it at that, your regular readers would have come to your defense, especially those who know you personally. Keep up the good work you do with our youth and this great blog.
September 5th, 2012 at 9:17 am
I'll say it again... this world would be a better place if had mo guys like you!!! You one shaka guy!!!
September 5th, 2012 at 9:34 am
Kudos to you BL and keep up the good work. People like you are rare now days. Doing for the sake of the keiki, not for the recognition.
take care.
September 5th, 2012 at 10:55 am
U dah man braddah Lance. If it works, don't break the mold. Winning is not everything, like u say, molding a self respecting gentlemen is. Kudos to U. Ignore the lo lo's.
September 5th, 2012 at 11:54 am
BL, thank you for sharing this. If there were more coaches like you I am sure our City would be a much better place. Kids need positive role models and someone to let them know about morals and what is right.
I've coached for many years and like you 99% of my stints were for free; just because I really enjoyed it. One key measurement of a successful season was how many kids came back the next year & years after that. Most rewarding are the relationships built with the kids and parents. I started coaching 40 years ago, no longer active, but still run into kids I had coached. Funny some of these young men & young women still call me "coach" after all this time.
BL, I aplaud you and hope you continue to do what you do in your own style!
September 5th, 2012 at 12:49 pm
Bravo, BL. Need more folks like you (and da wife who allows you to do what you do)!
September 5th, 2012 at 1:38 pm
BL, I must agree with what "Parent of a former player" said in his/her post. You should have just let it go. Why the need to even defend yourself?? It's obvious that they guy who posted that about you clearly does not know you, and he does not know what he is talking about, so why even bother reacting to his post?? Maybe he just wanted to piss you off, which, based on your response, he clearly did.
I really love your column, BL, but it serves absolutely no purpose to rehash some stupid comment that a stupid person has posted. Thank you for investing your time into the youth of Hawaii. That is an awesome thing to do!
September 5th, 2012 at 1:55 pm
I agree that you don't have to defend roused because what you do speaks for itself. As many detractors as there may be, you have many more fans. Breathe and let it go. You know I'm one of your fans.
September 5th, 2012 at 1:56 pm
Sorry, cannot text so always make mistakes...you don't have to defend yourself is what I meant to say.
September 5th, 2012 at 2:15 pm
CHeeeeeeee huuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!
September 5th, 2012 at 4:08 pm
September 5th, 2012 at 7:48 pm
Das one of da reasons why I do wat I do. Sports and staying active played a tremendous role in my life and without, who knows wea I'd be.
Yeah, it's a huge sacrifice.... but I tink it's worth it.
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So you like rub it in eh?
Well, maybe he wen apologize in invisible ink. Das ok, I wasn't looking nor expecting one. It's au' good.
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Ha ha ha! Maybe a get of jail free card?
Well, depends how she's feeling at da moment.
And I just hope dat I'm enough for Da Baby to look up to.
*tear* *sniff sniff*
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Whoa! E Komo Mai duffer and coming out of Lurkahville! You no longah a Lurkah..... I hope.
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And dat is one of da biggest points I try to get across to these keiki in dat da skills they learn through da program are skills they can take and should be able to apply anywhere. Da biggest question always has been whether da light bulb goes on in time.
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I only do wat I can wit wat I can. I really tink everyone has a chance to do something but it's just a mattah of wat it is. Some find it early, some find it late but I truly feel dat we all got it inside of us.
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Whether it's for da keiki or animals or a cause, if we all just care once in awhile, it would do da world good.
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Well, it took many many years to build da mold and it's always changing wit a tweak hea and a tweak there but yeah, da end result tries to remain da same.
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And das wea I truly feel I can make a difference by trying to "showing" them. Once, during a field maintenance day, I took a few players in da truck to pick up some dirt. Along da way, a SUV was stalled in da middle of da road and being a two way street, da vehicles in our lane was waiting to pass and did so wen da oddah lane was empty. I pulled on da side, jumped out of da truck and pushed da SUV to an open spot down da street. Wen I jumped back into da truck, da players had a blank look on their face like they've nevah seen dat before. I explained to them dat 1) someone needed help, 2) it didn't put us in danger put took someone out of it, 3) it literally only took five minutes to help someone dat no one else had as oddah vehicles were pissed because of being inconvenienced instead of asking themselves if someone could use some help. It's not da first time I've pulled ovah to help. I've even helped patch flat tires many a times as I keep a kit in da truck.
I know! It's kinda chicken skin wen you know you meant something to someone.
Ha ha ha! Me too! But I tink it's cause they got nothing else to call me.
Right back at 'cha..... Coach!
E Komo Mai to WWD! Willie!
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You telling me! I definitely wouldn't be able to do wat I do if it wasn't for my understanding and compassionate wife.... but then again, I did warn her once we started dating.
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Mahalos.
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Such is life.
Should I blog about it?
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You going buss out da haka too?
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I hope he's still behaving.... oddahwise, send him back.
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Stay tuned for da "high road".
September 5th, 2012 at 9:28 pm
Brah you NOT one Shaka kind guy.....
You one FIVE SHAKA kinda guy. I've followed you on this blog for years and know what you do for the kids. Das why I wen bring you da mochi even if you no can follow da instructions
nah nah nah You one good role model. Many can learn from your example. You have what we call da "Self-sacrificing spirit"
This is not to say they're aren't others out there because get choke. But I am glad I got to know you.
Chee Huuu
September 5th, 2012 at 9:37 pm
Ynaku: How you going make 5 shakas? You only get 2 hands and 2 feet.
September 6th, 2012 at 5:58 am
Howzit BL!
September 6th, 2012 at 7:41 am
Eh BL.......for what its worth. As long as YOU KNOW that what you doing is "right"...........that's all dat matters.
Gonna get people who you DON'T EVEN KNOW gonna have opinions about you or what you do. Just gotta shrug it off sometimes as the effort/energy to make dem understand just ain't worth it
A big "MAHALO" from everyone that appreciates all dat you do.
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September 6th, 2012 at 8:59 am
... hey Braddah Lance ... damn!!! ... I missed da blog fight!!! ... ok ... maybe not one fight ... but I see da emotions pouring out ...
... just want to add my 2 cents ... maybe not even worth 2 cents ... but anyway ...
... I have to respectfully disagree with Parent of former player and 9thIslandGirl ... I understand where they're coming from ... and "taking the high road" has its merits ...
... but while we know that Braddah Lance is an upstanding guy and someone we'd be lucky to have in our corner ... it's understandable that he'd react the way he did ... I wouldn't have expected anything less ...
... but more importantly ... the sad fact is that too many people "hide" behind their anonymity on the internet ... and say or post things that they would not dare do face to face or proclaim in public ... and more sadly, we tend to believe 90% of the stuff we read on the internet as fact ...
... plain and simple ... some people will believe what that person said about Braddah Lance in the other blog ... no matter how outlandish it is ... and I see no problem with Braddah Lance responding to set the record straight ...
September 6th, 2012 at 10:58 am
@DIO 2 hands, 2 feet and small head with big ears
September 6th, 2012 at 12:12 pm
mahalos for paying it forward. our keiki that you coach will be better adults later.
it's not about the championships or the money...it's about the "fuzzy and warm" feeling.
even my daughter at 22 yrs old who is studying to become a teacher says it's the smile and warmth you receive from the kids after working with them. and she has been working in some underpriveleged areas such as yourself...only one parent...parents smokin pakas in front of the kids...on and on... one day she ran into a kid she had worked with at A+ in a shopping center... the kid ran up to her and gave a bring hug. now dats wat we talkin about!!
September 6th, 2012 at 2:31 pm
A thing become an issue if you make it an issue. If an idiot says something offensive and you let it pass, because we all know it's an idiotic thing to say and an idiot said it, then there is no harm and no foul. To respond to an idiot saying idiotic things is to give credibility to the idiot and the idiotic things she/he/shim said, while at the same time harming your own credibility and lessening your standing in your community. A wise old coach told me that a long, long time ago.
September 6th, 2012 at 6:59 pm
Ynaku: Other places small head with big ears, "Jughead." So I guess for Hawaii folks, it's Shaka Head, or, for the FBI folks, Head Shaka.
September 7th, 2012 at 5:52 am
Guud morning BL!
Happy FGF!
September 10th, 2012 at 6:20 am
Howzit BL