By Braddah Lance
MrK, who has officially become a Kwonic on WWD! , brought up on a few occasions dat "size" mattahs. For example, in road rage stink eye wat-boddah-you kine moments, if da drivah was on da scrawnier side, you'd be more prone to act out a response rather than say facing a 6'0" 240lb person.
While size certainly mattahs - speaking about confrontations of course - in my personal experiences, I have to say it's based more on fight or flight mode and your background pertaining to it.
Let me explain.
Growing up in Salt Lake, I've had my share of witnessing fights - and being in them as well - and each time it was a mattah of "survival" and establishing yourself. While most have gone through their lives without having been in a fight, those who have - won and/or lost - have gained an experience(s) dat will forevah be in them. You learn to gauge yourself and your capabilities and wat you're made of.
I've always had a passion for playing football and being 5 foot nothing, 100 and nothing and playing middle linebacker, I've had to prove myself every season from elementary through high school. It was nevah enough being captain every year as opponents who don't know me always sized me up looking for an easy target until I hit 'em up like a mack truck.
So for me, you could say I'm a fighter first and size doens't mattah to me cause I've always been da "smaller" guy but to a certain extent, I'm not going to pick a fight with a 300lb person unnecessarily, I'll still have da mind set to speak my peace should da situation call for it and not be afraid to do it.
He also went on to mention dat if you don't do it all da time, why do it at all?
For me, it's all about da situation. Surah you wanna be "consistent" but like everyone says, you pick and choose your battles. For some, it's more about making it right rather than "letting it go" and your experiences will dictate your actions... or at least your irk-ness about da situation will. But in each unique situation, it'll most definitely depend on your mood. Yeah, your mood.
Sometimes you feel more tantaran (or tarantaran, depending how you learned it) or maybe you're having a crappy day or maybe even a super terrific day, your reaction will be based on dat as well. Naturally, if you're not doing so good, you'll be more prone to say wat's really on your mind but if you're in a cheery mood, da situation will seem very manini and "not worth it".
And with all dat being said, it's basically boils down to if you want to get your okole kicked or if you can kick some okole since any type of confrontation can/will/generally leads to some kine of altercation. And THAT is da reason why I believe some just don't want to make - or point out - a wrong to make it a right.
So it's not just a mattah of being consistent or size for da mattah, but it's a combination of experience, tolerance, present mood and whether you can literally back yourself up. As all da WWD! readers have read, I've had fight and flight moments and I'm speculating it would be different if I grew up in a more affluent neighborhood.... or was at least 6'3".