Is There An Etiquette?

June 18th, 2013
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Awhile ago, as Da Wife was picking up her dinner from Kapiolani Coffee Shop, I watched an older Japanee man glancing back a couple of times before he made his move. It was "suspicious" looking but everyone who was watching knew wat he was going to do....... CUT!

Wassup Wit Dat!

Well, he didn't cut... sort of.

From da time we were there, I didn't recall him ordering or standing in line but he must have cause it looked like he just asked for either napkins or utensils.

It wasn't anything really and it's one of those things dat, if you're standing in line, kinda irks you regardless of da cutting. Most times it's just a quick question which at times turns into more questions or maybe part of your order was missing or you needed an extra condiment or utensil. In any case, especially if you've been waiting a long time, you get all pupule cause now someone else is being serviced while you had to wait your turn in line.

Living in a "civilized" world, we tend to let those with "quick" inquiries slide but it's those who blatantly appear to cut knowing dat there's a line do we throw our arms up in da air saying "Wassup Wit Dat!"

But is it still ok?

We've all done it before wea we left da counter only having to come back later wea time is of da essence. You're on da clock and your grace period of returning has begun da moment you picked up your order. If you walked away only to walk back, no one would tink different but as time tick tocks, da level of stink eye grows cause da longah you was away, da less likely people will "allow" you to "cut".

Are you tolerant of cutters? Do you ask "permission" to cut? You da one give stink eye eh?

Check out da braddah on da left and his stink eye to da Japanee man.... he was tinking da same thing I was. :lol:













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25 Responses to “Is There An Etiquette?”

  1. Annoddah Dave:

    BL: Queing is a societal and cultural thing. Maybe things have changed but the first time I was in Europe the Germans did not que so everybody was cutting. Only the British que'd. I was trying to remember if the Koreans que'd. During a sale at a store...forget about it! Woman driven in a sales rush is like an enraged rhino charging a hungry lion.


  2. jaydee:

    If he was just getting utensils or napkins I say let him slide. But if he trys ordering something everyone should call him on it. No place for rudeness 'li dat!


  3. MrK:

    It really depends what it is. For example - if the restaurant forgot to give the guy his soda, and he went up there to tell them, "You forgot my soda.", then I'm fine with that cause it's the restaurant's fault. He should not have to wait in that long line for their mistake. I can honestly say that, in my decades of living in Hawaii (and I'm kinda old), I've never seen a person blatantly, knowingly, and purposely cut in front of others. Actually, I did one time, but the guy who cut was a young guy who was drunk out of his mind. More commonly, I've seen people cut unknowingly because they did not realize which way the line was forming. On the mainland, however, I've seen people blatantly cut in line.


  4. Mows:

    Sometimes old people think they can just take advantage and cut in line. I WILL NOT ACCEPT THAT. One time at Walmart Keaumoku this old guy asks if he can go ahead of me. So I tell him no because the line was long and I was waiting long time. He tells me something like what a gentleman and I tell him "what you so old you cannot wait?" Everyone wants to be out of there as fast as possible, maybe if had some eye candy or something I would have let him go ahead.


  5. Mark:

    BL gotta watch out for the "stop and chat" people. Those that find someone in line that they know, stop off and chat, while conveniently cutting in line. Just the other day I was waiting in line to order food and someone did the stop and chat.


  6. kamaaina808:

    Hey there BL! :-)

    Well... if he already stood in line like everyone else & got his order, but forgot something & then went back (like for chopsticks, etc.) - I'd give 'em a pass. What I don't like is when people walk in off the street (say like @ the post office), see the long line, then walk up to the teller closest to the door and interrupt the transaction to ask for boxes, etc. Seriously? :mad:


  7. Lowtone123:

    I believe there is a respect thing as well as an etiquette thing. If I have my food but the server didn't provide a fork and such I would wait patiently on the side till the server is done helping the customer then I would politely ask for a fork. If there is a line I say excuse me and thank you for the customer's patience. I have let many people go in front of me for the same purpose. Many do like I do out of respect and appreciation but some just look at you and go.


  8. dihudfan:

    usually wen I go Vegas, I like to stay on the strip... most times at the MGM... I guess a lot of Chinese from China are going there also... talk about people that don't know wat a line is for... wwd
    I guess everybody on dis islands get irritated standing and driving in congested lines... everyone is in a rush to do whatevah... how you figah... the lines in the mainland is much longer... everywhere we go... must learn to be more patience, show more aloha!!! I know it's hud... but that's life...


  9. sally:

    If you're in back of me with one item in your hand and I notice, I will definitely let you go ahead of me. But if you tap me on my shoulder and say "I can go in front?" I will say "No".

    Just "No".

    You asked me a yes/no question, I gave you my yes/no answer.

    Maybe if you wen' smile and ASK "would you mind?" then I'll say "oh, of course, go ahead".

    Geez, no jus' take take take. So irking.


  10. sally:

    I agree with if they forgot your utensils, you shouldn't have to wait again for their error. By all means, go ahead a get your stuff in front of me. Most people will acknowledge by saying "Excuse me, they forgot my fork, mind if I go get it?".

    You know, just be polite and nice and no problem. But no jus' make BigBody and push your way thru da line!


  11. SurfDad:

    Funny topic, yet I'll tell you wjhat really gets me po'd. If it's unacceptable to cut in line at a restaurant or a store why do drivers have no problem doing it on the roads. We have all been in a long line of cars waiting in a specific lane that gets us on the freeway or maybe it's the lane we need to be in to make a left/right turn. Why is it okay for someone to go in the next lane move up to the front and merge into the lane that everyone is lined up in! THIS IS A Wassuo Wit Dat Moment


  12. wafan:

    I notice a lot of drivers in Hawai'i wait until the last minute to change lanes when one is closed. Not so much in this area. I think part of that problem in Hawai'i s caused by the signs being put right at the point of the lane closure. Why not put up the signs before the blockage? No make sense to use a sign to tell me the lane is blocked when I can see the orange cones on the road. Waste time to put up the signs.

    I believe most folks here and in Hawai'i are willing to let folks "cut" if they are missing an item as a fork or whatever. Really, just need to explain as Sally suggested.


  13. jaydee:

    I was in line at a grocery store with 6 items when a lady came up and asked, "Can I go ahead of you, I only have one item"? I looked at her and said politely, "No, I only have a few items myself". She gave me a "stink-eye" and went to the next register. I got checked out and as I was leaving I saw her still in line at the other register. Hah! She should've stayed behind me. Some people....


  14. Glenn D:

    Last year I was in line at my neighborhood recycle center for my annual aluminum can cash refund along with the heavy beer drinkers and the homeless. Right before my turn at the scale, this crazy looking, and most likely mentally deranged homeless guy cut in line in front of me holding a crumbled piece of aluminum foil. Eh, I no say nothin' and let him cut in front. I didn't want to get stabbed or my face bitten off, yeah?


  15. M:

    Howzit BL!
    At last years Okinawan Festival, I was in the long line to purchase scripts and this guy just comes in line in front of me. I told him the line starts back there and I pointed to him where the line starts. He cuts in front of the person in front of me and the person tells him the same thing and he cuts in front of the next person, well the police saw everything and took this guy out of the line.

    At this years Drum Festival at KCC the line was long to buy food in the cafeteria, when it was my turn to make a purchase this guy cuts in front of me and I told him the line starts back there and I just step in front of him. I told the person serving the food that this guy behind me just cut in line but the server didn't say anything and the person that was behind me didn't say anything too so this guy got away.


  16. cojef:

    My little small sister-in-law is a dynamite when someone cuts the line. We were in Cancun airport on a muggy and hot day, when this Japanese tour guide cuts the line and was going to dump a host passports on the counter, we were third in line and immediately she goes up to him and speaks in Japanese and tell him to get back in line. He sass her back and says we are group so we have priveleges, she raise her voice and screeches get back the of the line and kinda urge him back by placing her face almost into his. All the haoles hearing the commotion, then voiced their anger, overwhelmed he meekly backtracked.


  17. cojef:

    My little petite sister-in-law is a dynamite when someone cuts the line. We were in Cancun airport on a muggy and hot day, when this Japanese tour guide cuts the line and was going to dump a host of passports on the counter, we were third in line and immediately she goes up to him and speaks in Japanese and tell him to get back in line. He sass her back and says we are a group so we have priveleges, she raise her voice and screeches get back the of the line and kinda urge him back by placing her face almost into his. All the haoles hearing the commotion, then voiced their anger, overwhelmed he meekly backtracked.


  18. Kage:

    If they forgot a utensil I would let them go.

    I was in line at the grocery store once and this lady comes up to me and says she is in a rush and if she can cut. I tell her I am in a rush too so no can.

    I do have to admit sometimes we are too kind. Often I am in line and a local person in front will ask if I like go ahead of them. I always say no thank you. But sometimes when its an Aunty or Grandma, they get offended and I have to go in front of them after they make me all shame.


  19. Kage:

    I often do not grab a wagon when I shop because I know I will fill it with stuff I no need.

    So I am at the register line holding a bunch of stuffs in my hands. That is one reason they keep asking if I like go ahead of them.

    The other reason is because I am sooooooo darn cute... :) Just kidding.


  20. zzzzzz:

    The first time I read where you wrote, "CUT!," I thought you meant something else.


  21. Masako:

    Ok how about this situation. At the Memorial day lantern festival had maybe 3 or 4 people in front that were together. As we got closer to the lantern tent the 3 or 4 people had become 20, they would stop by, talk story and next thing you know they were part of the line. They were bigger than me so I was not about to say anything. Another thing that irked me was it was suppose to be 1 lantern per family but people were getting one for each person.

    Once at Sam's club I was in a long customer service line. This lady in front of me told me she needed to use the bathroom so would it be ok if she went and came back....I figured no problem. These two ladies behind me had a fit when the lady came back. I was just trying to show a little Aloha and caused a big commotion.


  22. Masako:

    Ok how about this situation. At the Memorial day lantern festival had maybe 3 or 4 people in front that were together. As we got closer to the lantern tent the 3 or 4 people had become 20, they would stop by, talk story and next thing you know they were part of the line. They were bigger than me so I was not about to say anything. Another thing that irked me was it was suppose to be 1 lantern per family but people were getting one for each person.

    Once at Sam's club I was in a long customer service line. This lady in front of me told me she needed to use the bathroom so would it be ok if she went and came back....I figured no problem. These two ladies behind me had a fit when the lady came back. I was just trying to show a little Aloha and caused a big


  23. Masako:

    @Kage - I have a bad habit of grabbing a cart even if I only plan to buy one thing. Then I'm asking myself on the way out of the store, why did I buy all this stuff. If someone has am armful of stuff and look like they having a hard time, i'll let them go in front of me.


  24. Kage:

    @Masako - :)


  25. PFP:

    If (1) old person; or (2) young person; or (3) retard, I cut slack. If normal, adult, then depends, but mostly, I don't let it bother me. The aggravation is not worth it. If line too long and I am crunched for time, I go to another place where line is shorter. Bottom line: I don't let little things like an old guy cutting in line bother me. Das how to live Aloha, BL.