By Braddah Lance
I've been brought up - and preach to my players - dat if you got something to say, you say it to da person face to face instead of behind da person's back so it's always been a wondah to me why da best things to say about a person is aftah they leave our world and nevah evah being able to hear it while they still are breathing.
Wassup Wit Dat!
At a funeral dis evening, I couldn't help but reminisce of past funerals dat all these great and terrific things were being shared about da deceased but I've always wondered if it was evah told to them before they passed? I don't mean throughout da years or once in awhile but (if)/wen you know it's "time".
Obviously, no one knows wen their time is up but we also kinda know wen it's close to someone's time as well - whether it be by illness or just being for a lack of a bettah word, makule - why not have a celebration of life? Or in a twisted WWD! way, why not throw a funeral but have da "deceased" either in costume or waking up aftah da service?
Tonight I heard many things dat I did not know about a man who's walked dis Earth for nearly a century. A close friend of mine's who I've known since kindergarten, lost her dad and it was very interesting to hear many interesting mo'olelo's dat I've nevah heard before. While small in size, he was immeasurable in spirit. He touched hundreds, if not thousands of lives through his kendo teaching and just his life experiences. I certainly hope he's left being "told" dat.
Personally wen my time comes, I certainly wouldn't want it to be a sad affair. In fact, I would probably make it a pre-requisite dat if you come and cry, you bettah stay home. I definitely wouldn't want anyone dressed in black or come in a suit and dat shorts, t-shirt and slippahs are da recommended wear - even pukas are ok. I would make surah dat there's happy dancing type of music playing and some onolicious grindz around and people come to talk story with each oddah rather than doing "remembah wen's".
It is a funny/weird/true thing dat funerals and weddings are times wen you see people you haven't seen in choke long time and it nevah fails - especially in Hawai'i - dat you'll bump into people dat you've either gone to school with or worked with. So why mess dat up with crying and feeling sad?
Da Wife knows dat should my time come before her, there are only two things dat I want happening: 1) make it a pah-tay and 2) spread part - or all - of my ashes at Point Panic.