Why Only Aftah?

September 29th, 2013
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I've been brought up - and preach to my players - dat if you got something to say, you say it to da person face to face instead of behind da person's back so it's always been a wondah to me why da best things to say about a person is aftah they leave our world and nevah evah being able to hear it while they still are breathing.

Wassup Wit Dat!

At a funeral dis evening, I couldn't help but reminisce of past funerals dat all these great and terrific things were being shared about da deceased but I've always wondered if it was evah told to them before they passed? I don't mean throughout da years or once in awhile but (if)/wen you know it's "time".

Obviously, no one knows wen their time is up but we also kinda know wen it's close to someone's time as well - whether it be by illness or just being for a lack of a bettah word, makule - why not have a celebration of life? Or in a twisted WWD! way, why not throw a funeral but have da "deceased" either in costume or waking up aftah da service?

Tonight I heard many things dat I did not know about a man who's walked dis Earth for nearly a century. A close friend of mine's who I've known since kindergarten, lost her dad and it was very interesting to hear many interesting mo'olelo's dat I've nevah heard before. While small in size, he was immeasurable in spirit. He touched hundreds, if not thousands of lives through his kendo teaching and just his life experiences. I certainly hope he's left being "told" dat.

Personally wen my time comes, I certainly wouldn't want it to be a sad affair. In fact, I would probably make it a pre-requisite dat if you come and cry, you bettah stay home. I definitely wouldn't want anyone dressed in black or come in a suit and dat shorts, t-shirt and slippahs are da recommended wear - even pukas are ok. I would make surah dat there's happy dancing type of music playing and some onolicious grindz around and people come to talk story with each oddah rather than doing "remembah wen's".

It is a funny/weird/true thing dat funerals and weddings are times wen you see people you haven't seen in choke long time and it nevah fails - especially in Hawai'i - dat you'll bump into people dat you've either gone to school with or worked with. So why mess dat up with crying and feeling sad?

Da Wife knows dat should my time come before her, there are only two things dat I want happening: 1) make it a pah-tay and 2) spread part - or all - of my ashes at Point Panic.

To Mr.Yoshinaga - or Yoshinaga Sensei as known to many - your time here will never be forgotten and as your daughter's friend, I will make sure that she keeps on smiling.








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11 Responses to “Why Only Aftah?”

  1. GA Bows:

    All too often we take things for granted. We're so busy with what's going on in our lives that we don't stop and enjoy the simple things that's around us daily.


  2. M:

    Howzit BL!
    I like one pah-tay too wen it's my time. Everybody have fun and enjoy.


  3. Kage:

    Good morning.

    I like your way of thinking.
    :)


  4. cojef:

    We both get up around 5 AM every morning and make up the bed together. As soon as the chore is done, we hug each other and say, "love you". That is our routine every morning. Braddah Lance am proud of you for broaching this subject as friends have become desensitized in the this digital age. Respect must be mutual just love is between individuals.


  5. cojef:

    Correction: forgot insert "like" between just and love in the last sentence


  6. 9thIslandGirl:

    My cousin's wife had an aneurysm and it was touch and go for a long time. She told me later that the best thing was that she heard people say thingsthey normally would only say at funerals.since then, I try to tell people how I feel, how much I appreciate them. Sorry to say I would cry at your funeral so you would want me to stay home. :-(


  7. Glenn D:

    Eh BL, I had my mom's funeral last year and I did the eulogy. I made sure that it was not all sappy and sad. That wouldn't be like my mom. So I had the funeral director and everyone attending laughing.


  8. Braddah Lance:

    GA Bows:
    All too often we take things for granted. We're so busy with what's going on in our lives that we don't stop and enjoy the simple things that's around us daily.

    Rogah dat. Sometimes gotta stop and smell da roses.
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    M:
    I like one pah-tay too wen it's my time. Everybody have fun and enjoy.

    Just show me da bar..... :mrgreen:
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    Kage:
    I like your way of thinking.

    I was tinking? :lol:
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    cojef:
    Braddah Lance am proud of you for broaching this subject as friends have become desensitized in the this digital age.

    Mahalo. It was kinda funny to see hundreds of people not checking, playing, updating or looking at their cell phones.
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    9thIslandGirl:
    She told me later that the best thing was that she heard people say things they normally would only say at funerals.

    I really tink it would make it easier to "go" knowing dat you had an impact on da ones dat love you.

    ... I try to tell people how I feel, how much I appreciate them.

    Das why you special. :razz:

    Sorry to say I would cry at your funeral so you would want me to stay home. :-(

    You going miss out one awesome pah-tay! :grin:


  9. wafan:

    Hmmmm, not interested in a crying, somber event. I love to laugh (see Mary Poppins) so I would expect and want smiles, laughter, music, jokes, good memories. If I am to be remembered then remember me with a smile and a chuckle!


  10. rayboyjr:

    Hey Braddah Lance ... yeah, a pahtay-like atmosphere would be uplifting ... but there's always room for a little reflection and reminiscing ...

    ... and yes, too often we think that our actions "speak" for what we do not say ... we assume that others already "know" what we're feeling or thinking ... but, it's never a bad idea to express your thoughts and feelings with words ...

    ... a few simple words are easy to think of ... yet, hard to utter ... but, may have the most profound effect on someone ...


  11. Bowling Buddy:

    I want my ipod music playing at my celebration. I got "happy" music mixed with oldies. I want to make a video for all to watch. I would thank all that came and "visit" the ones that didn't. I want all to laugh and have fun.