Office Holiday Etiquette?

December 10th, 2013
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I've always wondered during da season of giving - and receiving - wat kine of office etiquette is actually out there?

Your workplace is wea you spend a third - or more - of your day and literally they are your second ohana whether you'd like to admit or not but like your real ohana, you obviously wouldn't go out and buy a gift for EVERYONE - especially in a huge office - so do you buy for your "immediate co-workers" or not? If you do, who started it? Wat's da $ limit?

I tink there are some dat don't enjoy da season cause it's rough to reciprocate with da main reason being it's a financial hardship. It's even more rough wen you get - even shmall kine stuff - from a lot of people and just no can return da favor. Simply put, I believe dat everyone has a good heart - regardless of their upbringing - and it's da goodness of human nature dat makes you feel kinda sucky wen you cannot return da gesture. Trust me, been there, done dat.

So wat do you do if you received a gift and I'm not talking a fancy candy cane wrapped in a holiday bow and you either can't - or just don't want to for watevah reason - "reciprocate"? Wat happens da following year? Are you now gift exchanging buddies? Have you evah been da "first" one to give a gift? Have you evah been surprised to receive a gift? Wat about da people who give candy with a bow or ribbon taped on it - wat you tink about dat?

And fruitcake.......... Wassup Wit Dat! :lol:

But I tink we all asked ourselves these at one time or anoddah. There are so much "protocols" in da "gesture(s)" dat I can see why there are millions who feel da pressures of da holidays. I am surah dat if we all could, we would be giving watevah we could left and right but we are all not dat fortunate - do you still find yourself giving more than receiving? Do you feel like you HAVE TO reciprocate? Are you pupule yet?

Wat you tink?








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11 Responses to “Office Holiday Etiquette?”

  1. M:

    Howzit BL!

    I have 18 co-workers and I always give each one something that we have baked, like cookies or party mix. Some co-workers reciprocate and it doesn't bother me if i don't get any gifts in return.


  2. cojef:

    Wen used to work, our office usual practice was to place the names of all employees within our unit, in a hat and each employee was required to draw a name. Important here is not let anyone else know whose name you drew. Each individual was then required to bring a gift with a value not to exceed a certain dollar amount, like $8.00, with the name of the individual written in bold letters on the package, on the day of the gift exchange. All the gifts are placed together. The gift you select will be determine by clandestinely asking the individual what he needs most or he or she wants, again within the price range established.
    Thus, each individual receiving a gift do not know who the donor was.


  3. Kage:

    I bake cookies or a small cake or bread for the employees that I supervise and immediate co-workers. I try my best to give it to them individually.

    I give other departments that help me out throughout the year a gallon jar of cookies for the entire department.


  4. Kage:

    I do not care if I get any gifts in return. Usually I try to wait until our last working day before the holiday so they do not feel like they need to give me something. I just want them to know I am thankful for their help and show my appreciation.


  5. Blessed:

    A good idea as we did for the past 5 years is to create a hui of 2 or 3 groups in the office that will provide lunch for the entire office on separate days before Christmas as a gift gesture. This helps spread the kala amongst the group members and you know everyone enjoys eating.


  6. snow:

    i used to exchange gifts with several people in the office but we stopped doing that when we had furloughs. it's actually made it way less stressful because christmas is already a busy time at work so there was no time to shop! i used to bake too... but that went out the window long ago. sometimes home made goodies are way more coveted than purchased gifts.

    it's the thought and the effort behind the gift, not the cost. but, like the others here, it doesn't matter if the gift is reciprocated. i have always brought in something for the office, though now it's something purchased, not that i've baked. like kage said, i just want to let them know that i am thankful and appreciative of their efforts.


  7. Bowling Buddy:

    Exchanged things that was made or baked. Cost effective and more personal.


  8. rayboyjr:

    :cool: Good Morning Everyone!!! :cool:

    ... hey Braddah Lance ... bah humbug!!! ... nah, nah, it's whatever you want to do ... Christmas spirit should come from the heart and not because of etiquette ...

    ... just happy to be around to enjoy with others ... gifts ... they really shouldn't matter ...

    ... Have a Good One Everyone!!! ...


  9. Masako:

    Good morning! I usually get giftcards for the workers that I supervise and little things for other people that I work with, sometimes its baked stuff if I have the time and energy. I like to keep things simple, its when its complicated that it gets stressful.

    We used to do a grab bag game at our work Christmas party but people would take it so seriously and get upset if the gift they wanted got exchanged (part of the game) or they got something they thought was junk so the committee decided to stop doing it. One year was so funny, this older lady got a cute bag with a box of condoms inside, everybody laughed but she got really pissed. Another year there was a Chippendales calendar and one of the few guys at our workplace ended up getting it. It used to be so much fun, too bad a couple of people with sour attitudes had to spoil it.


  10. kamaaina808:

    Used to draw names & grab bag gifts - $10 limit. YMMV.


  11. KAN:

    I buy gifts for my three main bosses and also get gifts for fellow staff members. I don't buy for the big bosses who aren't mine directly.