By Braddah Lance
Wen I post a blog about certain situations I encounter (or how some readers say I put myself in), I'm perplexed about how such comments come about. There are comments telling ("encouraging") me to think about my players or da safety of my own keiki but wat they fail to realize is dat I do.... I ALWAYS do.
There was a particular comment about a month ago:
Next time, just call 911 and be done with it because:
● you have a baby now. Baby is the priority.
● if the guy is so bold as to do the . . . seeming out-of-the-ordinary things that he did . . . ask yourself, what else might he be prepared to do.
It's not about not doing anything. Just call 911 and be done with it. Don't go until something happens to you. You're not Batman.
Wassup Wit Dat!
How can I - or anyone - in good moral conscience - watch and/or stand by when there are things going wrong? It's the very thing I teach and preach to not only my players but to my daughter and later my son once he's able to. How can I say it's the "right thing to do" while standing there literally doing NOTHING? And to be "done with it"??
I tell the players this every year:
It takes much more of a man to stand up and stop what's wrong than it is to stay on the side and only think about it or keep it to yourself or worse yet, only "talk" about it. You should be able to stand up to a friend and tell him 'nuff already or stop something you feel is grossly wrong BUUUUUUUUT hea's da catch, be prepared to defend yourself even to da point of getting your okole kicked because no mattah dat da right thing should be done, da oddah person obviously is more right than you at dat particular time.
Wen your friend(s) get teased and s/he isn't laughing, step in. If someone is getting pounded and you tink they had enough, stop da fight by holding back da person getting beat (if you hold back da person who's doing da beating, they may take it as anoddah fight). If you're able (feel safe enough) to approach strangers who are doing something not right, then God be with you and stand strong.
Too much has society been standing "idly" by. Take a look at Talia in da previous blog. If there was ANYONE who had contact with her and thought even for a second she needed help and didn't do anything about it, you tink they no feel sick to their stomach right now?
So to each their own. Stand up or stand down. Pick your battles and be prepared to defend them. Be prepared to get your okole kicked. Be prepared to do da right thing. I'm not Batman nor any superhero for da mattah, I'm just an ordinary person who believes dat doing da right thing is more than a punchline or just something you say but please don't ask/tell me to stay idly by when a wrong is being done right in front of me and there's something that can actually be done.
Aftah "evaluating" things, surah things could have been different as well as da outcome but at dat moment you not tinking about results or procedures, it's about just stopping da wrong. Can you (I) help in every situation? Hell no! Not even superheroes can do dat but I'll do wat I can wen I can.
For those who preach to "watch", da next time you are being wronged, don't cry out for help or expect a stranger to appear out of nowhere and lend a hand in support. Don't wonder why people continue to walk by staring and not a soul offering comfort while you wait for "help". Don't ask how come nobody did anything wen they saw someone breaking into your home or car. No cry foul when your wordly possessions are stolen from you. No talk stink wen someone you love is being hurt and no one lifted a fingah..... but did dial 911.
I'm not out there trying to make everything good nor do I need to. Things you can do, you do and obviously things that may cause harm to you, proceed at your own risk depending on da situation. It boils down to wat YOU want out of life and can do about it. If you da type dat only lifts a fingah to dial 911 or just stares as crap happens then so be it, nothing wrong about dat but no "scold" me for lifting more than a fingah wen I got nine oddah fingahs and ten toes dat'll step right in.
While I'd like to believe dat we all want to do right, how passionate are you about it? Have you evah done "right" and have it blow up in your face? Have you evah regretted not having done something to help? Have you been on da oddah side looking for ANYONE to help and no one did - how you feel about dat?
Those who think will not act and those who act will not think..... sadly, both sides agree on one thing........