Couldn't Believe Wat I Witnessed

July 2nd, 2014
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Wenevah I go and pick up Da Keiki from pre-school, I like to chill in da truck or stand on da side and watch her be her self. I like to see how she acts without "us" around and if she's behaving or not or how she'll be in da "real world".

Yesterday, as I sat there watching Da Keiki climb da wall to da top of da slide in da playground, there was anoddah girl (Girl A) just sitting on da bottom. I expected her to wait till da bottom was clear but she slid down and bumped Girl A girl on da bottom. I was in shock tinking "wat da heck?!?" but as I still sat there, it turned out to be a game they were playing as they took turns bumping each oddah at da bottom of da slide.

I chuckled to myself tinking, "ah, da good ole' days of being a carefree keiki".

A few moments latah, there was anoddah little girl (Girl B) dat just wanted to climb up but Girl A cut her off, got right in her face and I'm assuming told her she couldn't go because they were already playing on it. Girl B just stood there and wen Da Keiki got bumped off, Da Keiki "copied" and I know my girl, she's a little direct in instructions wen it comes to directions but dis time Girl B took a soccer stance and tried to leg sweep Da Keiki, twice.

Da Keiki was able to dodge it, shrugged it off and went climbing to da top of da slide. At dat time, Girl B went to da teacher and Girl A followed and they both pleaded their cases to da teacher. Da Keiki sat on da bottom of da slide watching then a few moments latah went to anoddah teacher to tell her dat Girl B attempted a couple of leg sweeps at her.

I saw da teacher point towards da girls and it looked like she was telling Da Keiki to tell da teacher, who was talking to da girls, watevah Da Keiki was telling her. Then Da Keiki took a couple of steps, did a double take looking back and da teacher was shooing her hands encouraging her to "go on".

Wat happened next made me want to blow like Kilauea.

Da Keiki approached Girl B and tried her version of a leg sweep. I would like to think da goodness of her heart got to her as she totally failed in effort and distance. I got out of da truck and marched right ovah to Da Keiki, took her inside da classroom and asked her why she was trying to kick Girl B. She replied,

"Mrs.A**** told me to."

Wass-FRICKIN'-up Wit Dat!!!!

As I was explaining to Da Keiki dat being mean to someone isn't something we teach her to do, being mean to someone will always make dat person be mean to you. I told her she was mean to Girl B first by not sharing da slide with her wen da slide is something for everyone to play on.

Among oddah things in dis life lesson for her, it was extremely difficult to get da point across wen we also tell her to listen to people of authority such as police and of course, teachers! She knew it was bad overall to try and kick someone and kept crying saying she was sorry then anoddah teacher came into da classroom and enthusiastically said hi but noticed Da Keiki was crying.

We were about to head out da door wen she asked if Da Keiki was ok then I turned around and snapped back, "NO!". After explaining wat happened and wat da "teacher" told Da Keiki to do, I said, "Das da kine of $h!t you teaching my girl??"

She said she would let da "lead" know.

I wasn't about to chew out da oddah teacher in front of da oddah keiki running around there but I certainly hope someone from Alphabet Land steps in cause who knows wat da frick goes on now dat I witnessed dis kine of crap first hand!

Yes, I did say ALPHABET LAND! A place renown for their "early childhood certified, nurturing and stable" staff. And while this may be something not common from their staff, it happened to my daughter and who knows who else have been "taught" to act like a punk.

It's a sad day wen you witness wat happens out of sight.

But nothing compares wen your heart drops to find out it was your kid.








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8 Responses to “Couldn't Believe Wat I Witnessed”

  1. cojef:

    Braddah Lance, you're the man. Parental influence will prevail and your Keiki will turn out to be like her Dad. Best to you.


  2. wafan:

    Obviously, I was not there as a witness, and definitely am not trying to defend the "teacher"; however, . . .

    -Was the "teacher" certified by a board, or a high school/college student who works there?
    -Did you confirm with the "teacher" who allegedly gave your girl the direction and permission to retaliate?
    -Amazing what kids learn in school with other kids. Cooperation, teamwork, patience and lying/fibbing are some of those things.
    -Your frustration and anger would have been better directed at the offending "teacher" if she was actually guilty, and the lead who should have been immediately notified.
    -If your girl was there when you snapped at the other "teacher" what did you teach her? That anger and cursing is fine in certain situations? Japanese anger is the same -- Asian anger is not a pretty thing! Let us not even get started on the Angry Asian Women. Whew, certainly do not want to be in the same room!
    -When your girl starts cursing . . .
    -And, a few other things. But, I think I'm in enough trouble . . . but, I do not blame you for getting excited about the situation.

    Bwah-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!


  3. Braddah Lance:

    cojef:
    Parental influence will prevail and your Keiki will turn out to be like her Dad.

    Das wat as parents we all hope in dat da influences we instill will carry through wen we not there........ and Lord help us if she turns out like me. :lol:
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    wafan:
    -Was the "teacher" certified by a board, or a high school/college student who works there?

    She's a full fledged adult and I believe she's an aide but in Da Keiki's eyes, all da "adults" are teachers.

    -Did you confirm with the "teacher" who allegedly gave your girl the direction and permission to retaliate?

    I was expecting to see/hear from her teacher but Da Wife said wen she picked up Da Keiki yesterday afternoon dat her regular teacher mumbled about kids being kids and dat sometimes they express feelings physically cause they can't use words........ WTF? I don't think she got da full story so now I'm going to write to their main office.

    -Amazing what kids learn in school with other kids. Cooperation, teamwork, patience and lying/fibbing are some of those things.

    Um, are you saying my daughter is lying/fibbing? Even aftah I WITNESSED da "alleged" action? Did I forget to mention dat she was "encouraged" to do wat she did? We all want to see our kids as angels and trust me, I'm da most cynical even with my own keiki so for me to take my daughter's side just cause she's mine is far fetched. I saw wat I saw and da actions proved it as well as confirmed by daughter. My only question to her wen I pulled her into da classroom was, "Wat did da teacher tell you?"

    -Your frustration and anger would have been better directed at the offending "teacher" if she was actually guilty, and the lead who should have been immediately notified.

    Pulling her away to "direct [my] frustration and anger" would have placed undue pressure on da oddah aide. There is a certain kid/adult ratio dat needs to be kept and dat conversation would have been made in private, not in da open.

    -If your girl was there when you snapped at the other "teacher" what did you teach her? That anger and cursing is fine in certain situations?

    Cursing no. Wen dat flew out of my mouth, I knew I was wrong but emotions? Since wen do we need to "control" emotions? If it escalated, then I see da need to calm to down but it's me as a parent expressing my extreme concern dat wat just happend should have NEVAH happened. If you can stay calm aftah having witnessed da "alleged" incident, den you are a waaaaay bettah man than I am.

    -When your girl starts cursing . . .

    And she will. It's a fact of life. I've WITNESSED kids as young as seven/eight use it in EVERYDAY language. Wen she starts, yes, there will be consequences but as a parent it's my job to teach her dat there's a time and place for it and dat it's not something you say regularly. Also there's a HUGE difference between swearing AT someone and swearing to EXPRESS emotion.

    -And, a few other things. But, I think I'm in enough trouble . . . but, I do not blame you for getting excited about the situation.

    So I'm to blame - if any - for wat happened? wow


  4. cojef:

    The moral of the incident is to keep cool and collected and not get involved in a semantic disagreement with anyone. Especially, in this incident, it will be a child's statement against an adult individual with tutorial superiority. Guess what if a formal complaint is lodged, no one wins, only losers emerge. In this day and age, you alone knows what is best for your keiki. Follow your instincts.


  5. UH91Alum:

    Did this occur at the Aiea, Pearl City or Waipahu branch?

    My kids have attended each branch one time or another, and are familiar with most of the staff and aides there. But there are certain "teachers" that I would prefer that my kids not be assigned to. I would definitely want to speak with the teacher if she instructed your girl to retaliate against the other girl.


  6. rayboyjr:

    @wafan ... I gotta defend Braddah Lance and his daughter ...

    -Was the "teacher" certified by a board, or a high school/college student who works there?

    Why does it matter? An employee of the school is not relieved of their responsibility simply because of their certification or education. The incident should never have happened under the school's "supervision".

    -Did you confirm with the "teacher" who allegedly gave your girl the direction and permission to retaliate?

    Even if the "teacher" didn't instruct her to retaliate, the "teacher" was there and allowed it to happen. That "teacher" probably should have been monitoring them more closely given the situation.

    -Amazing what kids learn in school with other kids. Cooperation, teamwork, patience and lying/fibbing are some of those things.

    What does this have to do with the situation? The incident should never have happened. It was simply a failure of the school to prevent the incident.

    -Your frustration and anger would have been better directed at the offending "teacher" if she was actually guilty, and the lead who should have been immediately notified.

    Are you saying frustration and anger is ok if it was directly at the "teacher" in question?

    -If your girl was there when you snapped at the other "teacher" what did you teach her? That anger and cursing is fine in certain situations? Japanese anger is the same -- Asian anger is not a pretty thing! Let us not even get started on the Angry Asian Women. Whew, certainly do not want to be in the same room!

    Anger is so hard to control. Is it right to teach someone never to get angry? I think that's impossible. And cursing is so prevalent in our society, that a few seconds of it from Daddy isn't so bad. And at least he could explain to her why he did so.

    This situation helped teach her that you shouldn't do something just because someone tells you to, if you think it's wrong. More importantly, it taught her that Daddy will always be there to support her!


  7. wafan:

    Never said you were to blame.


  8. Braddah Lance:

    cojef:
    Guess what if a formal complaint is lodged, no one wins, only losers emerge. In this day and age, you alone knows what is best for your keiki. Follow your instincts.

    I ain't gonna let it slide by either. Whether action is taken or not by da school, it isn't something a parent will "allow" to happen to oddahs as well.
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    UH91Alum:
    Did this occur at the Aiea, Pearl City or Waipahu branch?

    PC

    I would definitely want to speak with the teacher if she instructed your girl to retaliate against the other girl.

    We'll find out soon enough.

    E Komo Mai back to WWD! UH91Alum!
    What does this have to do with the situation? The incident should never have happened. It was simply a failure of the school to prevent the incident.Bingo.

    -Your frustration and anger would have been better directed at the offending "teacher" if she was actually guilty, and the lead who should have been immediately notified.

    Are you saying frustration and anger is ok if it was directly at the "teacher" in question?

    Ha ha ha, I nevah even tink dat far. It was bad for me snap at da oddah teacher but it would be ok to snap at da offending teacher? Ha ha ha.
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    wafan:
    Never said you were to blame.

    No worries, healthy discussion. :grin:


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