Growing up without any full-time support or stability at home is a recipe for disaster. While you may have roof ovah your head, food on da table and clothes on your back, you still have to learn, grow and survive 'reality'. In da best situations, your parent(s) are there to instill core values that they believe in - and have been taught themselves - but wat happens wen they aren't around to supervise? With each passing generation, da situations are da same but how we cope with them is wat constantly evolves.
Wen I was growing up (specifically between 5-12 years old), we hardly evah spent any time indoors. We were always playing outside and most times it involved backyard sports back at da elementary school grounds or da district park: kickball, football, basketball, baseball, ping-pong - anything with a ball dat involved people. You learn 'rules' pretty quick and you most definitely learn how to 'survive' especially dealing with pick up games. No iPads, laptops or smartphones.
While I was a park rat, I still remembah something else dat helped 'mold' me wen I wasn't at da park: movies and da tv. While my parents were working 14+ hour days, da tv - at least back in da day - had much 'cleaner' content. Watching da shows and movies I'll openly admit dat I treated them as something to believe in, I related it to 'real' life.
Obviously da tv shows are like night and day comparing da 80's to now, even some of da "safe for kids" rating is pretty debatable. Movies on da oddah hand are always available no mattah how 'outdated' it may be. There are a few movies dat once they are of 'age', I'll force them to watch it with me cause no mattah how corny it may seem, it's still 'believable' if you believe in da message - or at least da message you interpret it to be.
My all time favorites and wat I got out of it during my hannah-battah dayz:
Stand By Me - friendship, loyalty, adventure, fun, trust
Goonies - same as above
Princess Bride - true love
Sorry wasn't a Stars Wars (sci-fi) fan
Poltergeist - will nevah watch static tv and constantly will question if anything was built ovah a graveyard
The Little Mermaid - it was like da 'first' animated movie and automatic date movie LOL
The Outsiders - toughness, survival, family, profiling, get chance
Top Gun - F14's, motorcycles, testosterone, need I say more? And da 'scene', it's why guys.... wanted to be a Naval Aviator. LOL
Karate Kid - 'Asian' values, humility, shut up and learn, there's a method to da madness
Even classic tv shows Family Ties, Who's The Boss, Silver Spoons, Different Strokes, 21 Jump Street, Family Matters, Growing Pains, Happy Days and of course MacGyver! If you don't know MacGyver,
Wassup Wit Dat!
I was nevah into da "fake" stuff and I intertwined da 'ideals' of these shows which paralleled my upbringing and vision from my parents..... but who listens to parents? lol Lo and behold, still till today, I still believe all those 'messages'. My dream is to one day share with my keikis' a bowl full of popcorn and kaki-mochi watching Stand By Me and hoping they are influenced da same as I have been..... in between checking their text messages and FB of course.
Have you had any movies, wen you was growing up, dat influenced you? Do you have one, two or more movies dat still will stir your emotions? Wat about any tv shows? Did you watch for 'entertainment' or did it feel 'real'? I can't believe I still use some of da tag lines today.....