Mid-Life Crisis (MLC) blogger Rodney Lee (aka Uncle Rodney) posted a blog on Feb.18 titled, "Just Go Out There And Have Fun" and posed a question to me following a response he had to one of his posters (just so happens dat da poster is a Kwonic too!) 😀 :
KAN: I know some people (not me) who thrive on competitiveness-the act of competition and giving their all IS fun.
UR Response: You talking about Brudduh Lance? Let's ask him when he's out to win, is he also out to have fun?
BL: Sorry Uncle Rodney, I was tryin' and tryin' and there's no way I could fit my response without full on posting a blog in your blog because there's A LOT to say - it's simple but not.
UR's blog had asked about having fun in sports and we see eye to eye in general - well, literal too cause I tink we same height. 😆 And here's a definition he posted,
1: what provides amusement or enjoyment ; specifically : playful often boisterous action or speech <full of fun>
2: a mood for finding or making amusement <all in fun>
3 a: amusement , enjoyment <sickness takes all the fun out of life> b: derisive jest : sport , ridicule <a figure of fun>
4: violent or excited activity or argument <let a snake loose in the classroom; then the fun began>
And yes, I have a lot to say but I'll try
to keep it short..... yeah right. 😆
I love dis kine philosophical/observation stuff (as you guys who frequently read have noticed by now) and wen Uncle Rodney asked... I couldn't resist. Well on with it......
First, I am very - ok, extremely - competitive but I value "fun" more than anything else.
How can that be? Well let me try explain wat I tink competition is.
Being competitive for me is more about doing the best I can and always striving to do more than I can. It's not about "beating" the other team or running up points on the scoreboard. It's especially more "intense" when I know I can do it whether I've did it before or not. So really - at least for me - it's competition against myself. Then I use that "edge" to try and "win" over the person/team I'm playing against.
For example, I've been playing all kine sports all of my life - and still to this day - and I'll tell ya that when people first meet me on the field or court - regardless of sport - the first impression they get is, "This little guy is playing? I'm going to cream 'em!"
Without getting into details, let's just say that I LOVE da underdog role and it's "fun" when I get to knock 'em on their okole! 😈 If I'm on the losing end of that battle, it just pushes me more to do better the next time and keep fighting.
Fun, I believe, is the emotional aspect that's displayed in everything we do whether it be sports, work or play. I've had fun losing, winning, at work, at home.... everywhere and anywhere!
Everyone concentrates and works hard. There are serious moments and times when your face looks like you're on the "throne"..... but how can you tell you're actually having fun?
By looking at their faces and their actions.
Look what happens when LeBron or Shaq goes up for a dunk... their face is pure intensity and concentration before and during the dunk..... the fun comes the moment they flush dat ball in! Look at LeBron's grin or Shaq's "dance". Look at da chest bumps, da hard high five's, da bench players jumping up and down, the crowd going wild.... That's when you know EVERYONE's having fun.
Look when Chad Johnson or most anybody scores a touchdown. They all wanna celebrate and "have fun". Have you seen their faces? Have you seen their dances? You can tell.
UR brought up Michelle Wie. Recently, before entering the final round she says she's just going to "go out there and have fun" but later it seemed to be her demise quote of the day. I believe she lacked something and she wasn't having "fun" either. Have you ever seen her giggle on the course or smile even? I mean a whole hearted smile - not da kine she always does: presses her lips tightly together like she's forcing it. We've seen that hundreds of times already.... no fun.
Look at Tadd Fujikawa last year at the Sony Open... you could tell he was having fun by his monstrous grins he flashed BETWEEN shots - not before his shot prep, not during his swing but AFTAH! And guess wat? When he was having fun, da crowd was having fun!
Fun is not necessarily the "celebration" itself - although some athletes could make a mini-series about it - but it's the exhibition of emotions. That's when you remember if it's fun or not. You could make a fantastic play and when someone compliments you on it, your face lights up and you smile... now DAT was fun!
When you really think about it, fun only happens when you feel like you've been involved. When a teammate does well and you share in the moment (some people are not team players hence the "J" effect) you end up having fun yourself.
If you're ever on the spot as an individual like bowling needing a strike in the last frame to win it or 10 feet away for a birdie putt or on the free throw line needing a basket to win it and if you miss you surly won't be having fun because of just the emotional let down. You could of had a fantastic game and had fun through it all but it takes just that one moment to take all that fun away.
I'll tell you right now, writing a blog is NO FUN! But the interaction from the responses IS. You wouldn't believe how many times I smile when I read a post (dat's why I keep asking you guys to comment. *hint hint*). I have FUN from THAT.
Don't believe me? Ask Uncle Rodney, Queenie or Leslie. When they write, they're not smiling but when I pass by their desk and I see them grinning at the screen.... I KNOW THEY'RE ON THEIR BLOG! 😉 I shoud paparazzi them da next time I walk by yeah? 😎 😉
The next time you're at your keiki's ball game, watch them throughout the whole game and watch for their moments of "fun". You'll see the ones who don't enjoy the game are the ones who always say the game - or sport - is junk and "no fun". It's cause they're not laughing, smiling and enjoying it... they're NOT having fun. If there are more fun moments than not, you'll always be having fun.
Better yet, check out da peeps at work. You can see who enjoys their work or not. Or better yet a pah-tay - take a look around and see who's having "fun" and who's not.... you'd be surprised to see how many people truly are and how many just "say" they are.
Fun for me isn't so much about da wins and losses, it's about well.... having fun!
So Have You Evah had "fun"?
You bettah believe at da next Triad pah-tay..... I'll be lookin'! Cause I bettah not be da only one having fun! 😀